Anyone here got Ugly-dar

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Its very rare for people to right out call me attractive, mostly b/c I get pissed off if someone (even in my family) calls me pretty or beautiful. W/ guys, I think I prevent any comments about my looks by saying I'm asexual + possibly being unattractive. But oddly enough I had a female friend tell me "you look gorgeous" recently when she saw me coming in for dinner (I'm on campus). This didn't make sense b/c I had my head down (she lifted it too) & she's not a lesbian (she's gotten offers from girls b4 & turned them down). This just a girl thing I don't get? I've also been told by 1-2 guys that "you've definitely got boobs" when I said I was the smallest girl their (I hang out w/ nice weirdos where both the guys & girls compare breast size ). I also had an instance in HS where a friend interpreted a guy I knew had a crush on me b/c he kept staring at me after I had a panic attack b/c he surprised me (this went on for months until he graduated). I keep getting mixed signals, either comments saying I'm attractive in what I'm guessing are non-flirtatious (this a word ) situations or staring & no comments. I'm confused! (Frustration level at practically )

I think my ability to tell who's ugly and who's pretty is getting better as my ability to recognize people improves.

I was wondering if anyone else doesn't have a clear idea of what he or she looks like. And I don't mean not knowing how you rate on a beauty scale, but rather, not remembering your features. I'm always looking in the mirror, because I tend to forget what I look like, and every time it's like a surprise.

yeah...I get that too..I sorta seem to forget over and over...and it makes me have to look in a mirror a lot...

i know that i am fat and ugly. At least that's what i get from people.

I don't know. I don't know what people think about me if I'm attractive or not, sometimes I think I'm ugly, sometimes I don't.

There is no real set criteria for whether you're good looking or not. It depends on who is looking.

To me, I find people who fake tan, wear makeup, dye their hair and have unhealthy diets absolutely hideous.

But some people I think are absolutely gorgeous may pass as just so-so to the folks who find barbie-doll types good looking.

Also, looks can change, for me, on personality. I may think someone is good looking until they open their mouth, and then I find that I can't stand the sight of them.

On the reverse, I remember one girl in particular who I thought was just UGLY. Nothing about her looks did I like. I then got to know her and she was really smart and interesting. Guess what, in a couple weeks I couldn't believe I was looking at the same person, I now thought she was gorgeous.

I can't tell who is ugly and often consider attractive people with distinctive appearances who would seem ugly to others.

<---If this hasn't broken any computer monitors yet, nothing will!

I'm not someone you would call attractive. I am overweight and I just look ugly in my opinion. I hate the fact that I look like my mom's family.I want to get plastic surgery and change my whole face and body.

I feel ugly most of the time. Before children, I looked like a model and even on hotORnot I was a 10!

Now I am is called womanly looking. I have an tall hourglass shape in healthy weight. I still get wolf whistles and things so i must look good to some people but i feel ugly compared to how i used to look. I think i look average now. I will look better if i loose 20kilos and get back to being underweight again.

I can't tell at all.

I usually look in the mirror and I think I look good, but other days I don't recognise myself at all to the point where it can be quite upsetting, then obviously there are then always the bad days where I notice how bad my skin is, see the flaws, how fast I'm ageing and weight gain, which makes me feel ugly. I think it depends on my facial expressions etc. but I'm clueless about what my face is doing to be able to do anything about that. Photo's are especially bad for me as I don't photograph well at all, at least everyone agrees on this so I know the ugly person in the photo's doesn't actually look like me...but then I still don't know what I look like!

So, if I can't trust myself or camera's to tell me the truth, how about other people?
HA! I was bullied badly for how I look when I was growing up as I have a big forehead, big lips and in my teens I was lanky and flat chested too, but then as an adult I've had plenty of people who have found me very attractive. Although I've noticed lately I'm getting less male attention, but that may be as I don't feel attractive right now. I don't like it when people say I'm attractive as I think they're lying.

When I was younger there were a few times when I used to think about attempting to cut and peel my face off - not in any sort of serious way, but I thought how much easier it would be, that even cuts on my face would mean that I would know that if people stared at me on the street it would be because of my scars, so I'd not have to worry about whether they thought I was ugly or attractive.

As for how others look - I don't find 'attractive' people attractive, I'm normally attracted to 'ugly' people (current boyfriend excluded).

I think I looked like a stud in the past. At least, I'd like to think so. Not so much these days, though. I hate getting older.