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Dancyclancy
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08 Nov 2009, 9:20 pm

I'm the same, reasonably OK one to one... if the other person and I have someting in common....otherwise it all falls flat.

Groups.... except interest groups which CAN still have problems but much easier add a few words to a previous point....then hand back the discussion...

Social Groups..... I think most people don't really want to hear another opinion unless it is one that supports their own.
Such gatherings are more or less ego boost sessions, more than commitment to a topic.

Nowadays I sit back and observe..... when I'm bored with that I want to leave.

Mostly though I avoid such occasions when possible.



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08 Nov 2009, 9:26 pm

Dancyclancy wrote:
Social Groups..... I think most people don't really want to hear another opinion unless it is one that supports their own.
Such gatherings are more or less ego boost sessions, more than commitment to a topic.


Ditto that - and if you don't have a giant ego to inflate and/or you are not fond of inflating it to the others, in most cases you're useless to them anyway. :?

You need to guess what they like to hear - if not, they ignore you as if you don't exist, especially if you're not loud enough or you don't laugh enough to those jokes heard so many times before.



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08 Nov 2009, 10:27 pm

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I've noticed that almost always when I'm having a conversation with more than one person, it's nearly impossible to get a word in. I'll start to say something but I'll be ignored/talked over, and as soon as there's a pause someone else will interject without giving me a chance. Does anyone else have this problem? Any solutions...?



Yes. You are playing my song :wink:


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08 Nov 2009, 10:44 pm

My friends smile and let me talk when i raise my hand. They know that I don't understand the rules. They like to hear me when I find it important enough to rise my hand. Of course they let me know when to be quiet again too.


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08 Nov 2009, 10:56 pm

Eh, i wouldnt worry overmuch about it . . . a LOT of NTs do nothing but talk, so the best thing to do would just be to walk away. That, and apparently there is some facial queue that signals you want to say something . . . they catch it, but we can't. ><


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08 Nov 2009, 11:21 pm

Yeah I get that all the time, and it's really irritating. I don't really think all of it is us not knowing the social rules, but more the other person (people) dominating conversations, and giving preference to people they like the best. Also, NT's usually don't like it when someone outside of their group tries to butt into their conversations.



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08 Nov 2009, 11:52 pm

Iron Sheik : "Hey ! Don't f-in interrupt when I'm talking !"

Oh that Sheiky :lol: :lol: :twisted:



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09 Nov 2009, 12:01 am

Sati wrote:
I've noticed that almost always when I'm having a conversation with more than one person, it's nearly impossible to get a word in. I'll start to say something but I'll be ignored/talked over, and as soon as there's a pause someone else will interject without giving me a chance. Does anyone else have this problem? Any solutions...?


Absolutely familiar... no solutions I've found, other than patience or contention.


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