Passing by someone in the hallway... What's your thoughts?

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Hallway, shopping mall, street, gym is all pretty much the same for me;

When do I look away, or how long do I maintain eye contact

i may have a moment of panic, if i do i think my keyphrase which helps me in alot of situations which is "the other person does not have a problem with this situation, nor are they aware that you have a problem, so there is no problem", and i just walk past.

The worst is when 2 people walk toward each other on the same side of the hallway, then they do that little dance... Both move this way, both move that way, both move this way, both move that way. Ahhh!! ! Just get the $#@! out of my way already!

Yes, that is certainly one social aspect that NTs seem to be as mind blind as people with AS.........unless.................the other person is also ALWAYS an Aspie

LMAO! I do the same thing! I also keep thinking "don't look at me don't look at me" as I'm walking.

Oh, the old sideways shift past someone. I dislike that approach. I only do it if I'm encountering someone large or obese (I don't mean that negatively, some people are just wider, and i am not referring to people who are fat). My approach is pull off to the side and let them pass then continue on my way.

"2. Think "Wow, a person.""

I like that one!

Once, not too long ago at work, one guy passed me and said something, and me, as usual, not really present and listening, heard a voice speaking and just uttered without thinking the most automatic reply ever: "Hey how are you? That's good."

But the problem in the exchange was that he hadn't actually said a question, but I answered him anyway, and then filled in his answer for him about how he was. I didn't even give him a chance.

He stopped dead and turned around and cracked up and I said "oh, I'm sorry did you just say hello?'

I don't think I explain this too well, but seriously, I'm often in my own thoughts and all replies and greetings are on some kind of auto-trac that I've developed, the meaning of which to me is absolute zero, but I use it because I realize people only want certain automatic greetings.

When I'm around someone I know will expect some kind of sharpness and quickness verbally from me, then I start getting nervous after the first few exchanges because I know I will run out of my usual 'getting-along-with-others-material.'

At work, I'm used to things and I don't like having to auto-greet others, but I can do it. I get uncomfortable though when people talk to me at lunch as I want to be left alone to read, and I just get irritated with the usual banter. I can't do it anyway. My banter lacks banter.

My really huge amounts of discomfort come in in large crowds, unfamiliar places etc where I have to cope without my usual standard little few words of conversation and normally I don't get through it without a large amount of ugly feelings, stess, and then I'm just mentally exhausted from it and I promise myself I'll never go anywhere again. But I do, because I think I will learn but I don't learn!

"blood" is the only thing goes through my head. (that was both a joke and serious)


when i am walking to a destination in the office complex where the company i work for is based, i preconceive my course and i get up and walk very rapidly to wherever i have to go.
some other people say i stomp too loudly as i walk down the hallway to where i intend to go.
they should carpet the lino floor.

i never notice anyone i pass by when i am on my way to somewhere. they do not bother to try to catch my attention either because they learned that it does not work.

i often read my papers closely when i walk rapidly, and i devise the quickest way to get the point through to the boss.
if anyone is in my way when i walk in corridors, then they always get out of my way because they realize i will collide with them because i am not looking for obstacles. i am silly in not looking where i walk, but if i collide with someone, then i am annoyed with them for impeding my progress and blocking my path.

no one ever tries to catch my attention when i am walking on my way to somewhere because it is futile, and so i rarely encounter people who want to say "hello" in a corridor.
i guess if i did, i would say "indeed" and continue past politely (unless they were occluding the corridor wherupon i would say "to the side please"). from experience i have learned that to say that makes people cranky.
a few years ago i used to say "out of my way thankyou" while "waving them off like flies" (a description my boss thought of).

now, if i remember, i say "thanks" at people walking toward me in a corridor while i shape my hand and arm into a kind of foreward pointing deflecting rail that they must avoid touching and they have to give me a wide berth to walk where i am going without interruption.

interruptions are extremely disliked by me

fear goes through my head.

i always assume that they're looking at me, judging me, making fun of me in their heads or something. glad i graduated.

i also used to find it EXTREMELY awkward to walk past my friends in the hallway.

I think, 'PLEASE don't talk to me'.

I try to walk past others fast enough to where they just think I didn't hear them... usually when I'm walking past someone, I'm just thinking the whole time "Please don't say anything!"

If I'm stuck, like, I'm in the store and trying to get something off of the shelf and someone else is standing there and starts to talk, they are usually the ones to wind up leaving while I am talking, rofl. I don't try to talk to others, but once I do, I don't shut up a lot of the time... or get the hint that they want me to.

I think appearing awkward a lot of the time actually helps me out a lot in that aspect... not many people go out of their way to say anything to me at all unless they know me pretty well or have seen me a lot... For instance, I am sick-a LOT (I think I have autoimmune dysfunction or something, but doc is still tryin to figure it out), and a girl in the pharmacy the other day actually blurted out "I think I see you guys every single time I'm here!"... and the pharmacists talk to me-they actually call me by name now and don't ask my address 100% of the time anymore because they see me so much, but anyway, back to that girl. In those types of situations, where it really catches me off guard, I just nod and keep walking.

For me, all of that is even worse if it is a female. Some women seem (or so it seems to me) to think any kind of attention is a come-on, and others seem miffed if they are not acknowledged in some particular way about which I have absolutely no clue. In the Navy many years ago, I once crossed the street to avoid the possibility of improperly saluting a female officer, and she called me out and stopped me and ordered me to come back on over and salute her and apologize. I was shaking so bad I could barely speak, and she chewed me out as if I had spit on the ground in front of her. But, I did manage a "salute" of some sort and she went on her way.

Yeah, i have noted the same.

The worst is when you see people a second time - like co-workers - how often do you have to say hi? Each time, the first two. Should i try to be witty (this never works.)

thereby creating a problem, in that they think you are aloof and ignored them - at least that is what my coworkers were saying (accurately) about me.

thereby creating a problem, in that they think you are aloof and ignored them - at least that is what my coworkers were saying (accurately) about me.