Has anyone ever told you to grow up?

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Yes - more times than I care to remember, mostly by people who don't know the difference between immaturity and non-conformity. One attitude several people I know have hinted at, and which really irritates me, is that I haven't grown up because I've never wanted to father children.

As if the world's population isn't already expanding, and its resources diminishing, enough without me adding to the problem by producing offspring I'd probably be totally ill-equipped to raise.

I've been told that quite a lot & I don't think all the people that said it were being mean. They didn't, & don't, understand Asperger's; that's very different from deliberately intending to hurt you. In the starting case, the Mum certainly seems to have some problems, whether it's simple immaturity or caused by other things. To some extent, it's pointing out the obvious; we should all be growing & maturing all the time. Gets difficult to discuss properly, when it isn't agreed what is meant, so does anybody want to put forward some ideas?

I can be referred to as immature, which is kinda the same thing. My dad sometimes jokingly says my mental age is about 5.

I agree with you, that is, I know EXACTLY how you feel!! !! !! !! ! My mom does this too and then proceeds to tell me how to do whatever she thinks I need to and SHE can't even work because of her mental issues... sorry for the vent... It just doesn't seem that she can say hjow I should be when she can't be what she says or even get the help that she needs... she can, but won't I mean... And THEY want HER to take gardianship over me?
If they only knew.

I used to get it alot back when my mum was with her old boyfriend, I used to argue alot with him and he would always tell me to grow up

The thing is, how can you tell a 9 year old to grow up? To me, its like he was taking away my childhood.... He eventually got dumped in the end because of how he was treating everyone. Nobody knew something was wrong with him, and i was the only one who has noticed.

Plus I also had it with other people and teachers.

I dont get it as much now as i learn how to mature but I still get it occasionally and it still bothers me... In my head, i dont feel like to grow up, unfortunelately i have to... but i can still have fun no matter how old i'am right?

I wish i was young again

I've been told to grow up, many times. I was mostly told to grow up, when I was into Austin Powers

Yep, I've been told that.

My usual response is "F**k off.".

I was admonished many times to grow up when I was in my 20's and early 30's. I was also a very late bloomer. I don't know if that has anything to do with it, but it seems like it ought to. I remember thinking, at the time, that I had no clue how to go about accomplishing this task. What should I work on? How do I proceed? People seemed to think these things should be obvious, or I should be able to compare myself to others and figure it out, but somehow I couldn't. The harder I tried the more miserably I failed. I finally concluded that the best thing I could do is to stop worrying about me, and just be me. When I did this the maturity eventually took care of itself, though I still have my moments when I feel like I am immature compared to my peers.

I don't get told to 'grow up' in those words that much, mostly it's by the subject matter. Like, mom will rant on about how I still like toys and still like cartoons and Transformers, and that's kids stuff, and she wishes I'd take an interest in 'adult' hobbies.

One of these days I should just say, "Oh you mean like pr0n?"

I don't understand this 'growing up' thing. I don't feel any different than I did when I was younger. When was this magical transformation supposed to occur?

I've been told (as a teenager) that I was childish.

I have been tolded that many times but to be honest i feel a lot more grown up then most people i see on the streets.