Ever Blank in Conversation?

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That kind of conversation is based on automatic response and sometimes my data base sends the wrong message. Like when someone thanks me for something and I say "You too" or "Have a nice day" and I say "You're welcome."

@Aimless I have that too!

Or I can be be going on in a conversation and it all just stops and you just starting hearing me go "uhhhh" for a good 8 seconds before I just can't remember.

I stall a lot, in fact--even if I'm still talking! My socials (hehheh:) kind of work generally for some small talk, but if I'm required to come up with a specific response, instead of producing something good to something someone said that I might agree with, I'll lamely use general fill in words, all the while grasping after something that would be suitable and would sum up what I'm trying to think and say at the same time. But I can't get there most days, but when I'm firing on all neurons, so to speak, and I say something appropriate or funny, especially in front of more than one person, it will make my day for like the whole freaking week.

When I have a point to argue or I'm trying to defend myself when my mum says things to me or about me, sometimes I draw a huge blank and don't know what toaa even though in my head I'm coming up with things it's all jumbled. And I end up fumbling over my words and not making much sense or saying something really dumb.

Happens to me whenever the conversation runs too long. *shrug*

Yeah it happens to me all the time.

Yes, i tend to lose my train of thought.One time I meant to ask the manager of the Red Deer courthouse something when she came to our criminal law class for a lecture, and I forgot what she was going to say because some NTs butted in and I had to wait because of the interuption..When it came my turn, I lost my train of thought and went blank...I then said..sorry..i forgot what i was going to say...then 2 minutes later it popped back in my mind and i was able to ask...the room was also less crowded cuz most of the NTs had left and it was just me, the instructor and the court house lady.

Always! That's why when I'm in class, I always want to say something, lest I forget it! But I often am viewed as annoying because of that. ^^;;

Yes I've often blanked out when trying to listen to people, but not usually during small talk. If it's small talk, I can engage in it for a short time, and if it goes on longer than I have the engery for, I seem to go onto automatic pilot where I'm only partly there....as if half my brain is getting tense and giving the work to a different part of the brain. And I tend to forget most of what's been said afterwards, as if it was processed by part of my brain that doesn't bother to lay down strong memories.

It's usually "important" information that blanks me out - from a mediocre teacher or from anybody explaining anything I might be expected to understand and retain for some future purpose. It's usually fine if the speaker takes the trouble to be very clear what they mean, but any carelessness can throw me completely. I think it's the anxiety of thinking that I'll be in some kind of trouble for not taking it in, that shakes up my brain and stops me from focussing on it properly. Often I think that if only I had a transcript of what they said, I could study it in secure isolation and work out whether it was really too vague for anybody to fathom, or not. I'm sure that sometimes it's really their fault, but I can rarely know at the time whether a particular conversation is unclear because of me or because of them.

I get similar problems when trying to read certain books or listen to some spoken-word recordings, but with those it's easier to repeat the exercise and analyse the situation to find out who's messing up the dialogue, though there are many borderline cases, and I suppose these hard copies must be intelligible to some people, or they wouldn't exist.

Ironically, my schoolteachers were often very pedantic about the way we spoke to them.....when I told the deputy head that I'd forgotten my school tie, his reply was "so what?" - he wouldn't deal with me until I'd explained that I knew he had a few spares for just such an event, and would like him to lend me one, though it was obvious that he knew perfectly well what I meant. No doubt he was trying to educate me, but not for the real world in which most people just don't bother to be particularly clear. So now as an adult I have to tolerate loads of scruffy communications, though I myself didn't get that kind of co-operation from my mentors. It must be great to be an Aspie in a high position, and to be able to demand high standards of clarity. I'm sure I wouldn't blank out so much if I had that degree of control over the way others spoke to me.

Ah, that's right. I hadn't thought that much of my blanking could be the fault of how someone is addressing me and that they expect me to understand some kind of communication shorthand of some sort, but then I really get lost trying to understand, communication overload results, and I blank. Countless times in my life I've tried to fake understanding what's going on, and I fail at it horribly because I've missed some essential piece that everyone else got. I hate that!

Happens to me all the time. Especially if I'm heavily involved in a project and it's all I can think about.

hesitation

An act of hesitating; suspension of opinion or action; doubt; vacillation.

A faltering in speech; stammering.

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/hesitation

All the, um, what's that word, clocks, a herb of some sort, you know...

I constantly forget words mid sentance and even forget what I talking about in the middile of my sentance. Everytime I do this someone usually makes a drug refrence like roll another doobie Cheech! Sometimes when I walk to the store I'll forget what I came there for aswell, my memory is shot.

Last edited by Todesking on 14 Sep 2010, 6:58 am, edited 2 times in total.

eh?

Happens with me quite a bit too.