Empathy, Or Lack Of

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I think you're right, about the projection thing (well I guess I already said that,) but also about how that's what other people do too, that that's probably most of what empathy is. When you put yourself in somebody else's shoes, you're not imagining how they feel, but how you would feel in the same situation. They're not always the same thing.
The dying thing is confusing too. I have a lot of trouble showing anything for that, partly I think because I don't really understand death. Not that anybody does.. but maybe me less than others. Or maybe me more than others just to the extent that I know I don't understand it. I don't know, but I've known about death from a very early age, but I don't think I understand much more about it now than I did then. A lot of times it feels not-real, or like it's no different than being physically far away. And I usually find living in a bad situation wanting to die to be sadder than finally dying.

Are you fair, just, sane and rational in the way you deal with others? If you are, don't worry about Empathy.

ruveyn

I dont think I lack empathy, I think logic gets in the way of empathy most of the time, but not that its absent. I come from a very large family most NT and truthfully I see them a lot less caring and good then I am. Why should I show empathy for someone I dont think deserves it or for a situation that I can rationalize in my brain that leaves me with no reason to be sad. When my new born son was hospitalized I did feel empathy, when I see an animal get hurt or tree cut down I do feel empathy, when a grown person makes a bad choice and suffers for it I cant show empathy, logic gets in the way. I like to call it over rationalization not unempathetic. <--not sure if thats a word.