Are you sensitive to what people say?

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Listening to my favourite song just calms me down however I dont think it would help me from becomming tougher

Yes.

Years ago, someone said to my mother of me: 'You know how they say some people are 'thin-skinned'? Well, this child isn't thin-skinned....she has no skin.'

In this sense, nothing has changed over the decades. This is particularly problematic, since despite not being able to deal at all with criticism or ridicule, I've never cared to, or felt comfortable with the idea of fitting in, so I have to deal with a lot more negative attention than many.

I was very sensitive when I was younger and I analysed and played the scene over and over in my head. To find out whether there was something I had said wrong and what they said. I used to have an awful grudge against people who hurt me with words. It is often the fact that you don't know how to respond to what people say is what makes you upset and then at home the analysing starts. If you would be able to express your feeling on the spot things would be different. I am 43 now and I still rarely am able to do this. It has to be a person I know quite well and than my heart is beating in my throat while I speak.

I also seemed to have realised that I can't take critism either... But nobody can in general but the difference is that I would probably end up taking things so seriously and I would find it hard not to overeact about it.

Half the time, I sometimes misinterperate it. (if I spelt it wrong, let me know)... I would usually feel so bad for it afterwards that I end up wanting to rewind back so I could fix where I went wrong.

Unfortunelately, u can't rewind unless you recorded it using a real life remote control.
I doubt that's gonna work...

So much that it has been crippling for me. I take offense to everything, and subconsciously feel hated when someone says something negative. Therefore, I have spent my life avoiding conflict; it has not served me well.

Yes. Especially if it's something criticizing or mean. But I'm used to it from family.
Just at schools. From teachers. Especially art teachers, they can become very mean.
But I'm especially sensitive if someone says something mean to other people, especially friends. I either get pissed or I become upset. But I try not to show it.
Like how the art teachers at my school always chide my friend who also has aspergers. Like this one time, one art teacher started lecturing him and how he shouldn't be so arrogant, and everyone started applauding. He just got pissed off, and I got upset. Then I talked to the teacher about it during break. And she hasn't said a word since. lol
But even for characters in movies or in television. It kind of sucks. Every mean thing I hear, I feel like it's being said to me.

I am sensitive to what people say.
Not as much as when i was younger though.

All of this however sorta sounds like me... But then recently for some really odd reason, ive suddenly become really sensitive and i simply cannot explain why its happening?
It also happened after me after the recent argument that ive been having lately, maybe it could be that triggering it?

nope

Eggman, right now, I wish I was like you then if you are no where near sensitive, lol

That's exactly the same as me.

Yeah. I think most of my meltdowns have been caused by things people have said to me. Criticism can easily get to me, especially if it's because of something i don't understand. Like when one manager at work recently told me that i was being rude and to mind my own business. Or when people have accused me of being argumentative when i only felt as though i was clarifying something. That stuff just makes me think about how i can't relate to people and will probably never be able to understand the society around me... and that those people don't understand me either and most of the time aren't going to care that i'm not on the same page as them. It mostly reinforces all of my feelings that i am and always will be "disconnected" from everyone else. Then if someone is mad or something at me about something i did, it can make me frustrated and i won't know what to do and i can sometimes overreact, get in a really bad mood, or just mentally disconnect from the situation. At work a few days ago a co-worker got mad at me for going into the back for about a minute to get something for a customer without telling her where i was going first. I tried to justify it, and rolled my eyes at some point because i thought she was being ridiculous and bossy, and she called a manager to tell me to communicate better and be more cooperative(both the coworker and manager know about my AS, by the way).. And, i don't know, it just made me feel horrible for the rest of the day. I kept thinking that everyone hates me and that i don't understand why i'm do hard to get along with. I went into the bathroom and cut my arm with a razor a few times and cried, and then i was stuttering and stuff for the next couple of hours, hit myself a few times, yeah. Basically a wreck. Then later in the day, when i was beginning to get a grip on myself, someone who was in a class with me last year came by and i talked to him for about five minutes about things that happened on black friday, and then when he left another coworker told me that i needed to put up the returns.. And when i tried toask her about why the other girl there was mad at me she complained they were both working while i was talking to that guy instead of putting up the returns. And that just brought me right back to feeling horrible again. Sometimes i just don't like people.

When I first saw your handle I thought it said superbovine

oh dear..... all I said was you don't seem anywhere near sensitive....

Anyone else feels sensitive to anything?