"Get ready, we're leaving."

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I absolutely despise those words! Most of the time people don't mean them. Which happens rather often. Though the ones I hate most are 'in a minute, later, etc' If we're leaving now, then let's leave NOW! Not in a minute, NOW! The time I waste waiting, I could have invested that one minute in something useful, like reading another paragraph in my book! You know I put my book down, because according to you we were leaving? You know I turned off my computer because we were leaving? You know I couldn't watch just one last scene on my show because we were leaving? Yet, here we are, still waiting!! !! !! ! I would have a meltdown.

And that's why I would get mad at my family. I never took "in a minute" literal of course. I always interpreted it as few minutes because it be impossible to get ready in a minute. No one has that good of timing concept. I couldn't tell time back then anyway.

My husband told me "we're leaving" is just a warning for we are leaving soon so be prepared. Then he told me today it can mean right now. Confusing.

If someone were putting on their shoes and said we were leaving, I would think we were leaving after she gets done putting on her shoes. If the person was holding the door open and said we were leaving, I would think now. My husband pointed this out to me for the meaning of the words and I saw he had different interpretations of it. Us aspies tend to actually read body language wrong. He said he has a hard time with body language too but he does better than me.

This happens far too often for my liking. When I say "I'm going to the store" then I litterally head for the door that second, coat and shoes already on, when my family says the same thing they're still watching tv/doing stuff on the computer/etc. and it can take up to half an hour before they're actually out the door.

In the past when my mother said we were late for something and needed to hurry then I was ready in about 45 seconds (yes, I timed it once) and spent the next 20 minutes waiting for her to get her things. This doesn't happen as often anymore because I no longer wait for anyone, when someone says it's time to leave then I get up and leave, with or without that person.

So yes, I can very much relate.

Anytime I go to someone's house with my mum she always says "we've got to go" or "get ready to leave in a min" so I get my shoes on but we don't leave until another half hour later because she's still chatting, what is the point in saying we're going when we're not? I'd rather people say they're going when they're about to leave the house instead of ages before. Also "in a min" means pretty soon, round about 2-5 minutes, not 20.
And when I arrange visiting people they always say "arrive whenever you're ready" which could be any time between 7am and 10pm, so I usually ask them for atleast a rough time, like 4-5pm if they really can't think of anything more precise.

People in my house leave in "drips and drabs", never as one single socially cohesive unit.
We're not in sync with each other at all, it's like four individuals trying to leave the house separately.
We don't chat much.
It takes us about 15 minutes to half an hour to actually leave because we're all leaving separately, even though we're supposed to be leaving together. There's a lot of waiting around and "false starts".

So it's a shock when I've gone on outings and field-trips with other groups of people.
These people seem to chat and behave as groups.
I have difficulty keeping up, while the rest of them are already moving on.
Because I'm not constantly chatting to them, I can't seem to "merge" with the group and leave in sync with the rest of them.

Out of sync.
I think that's what I am.