03 Jan 2010, 1:23 pm
LostAlien wrote:
MrLoony wrote:
vandire wrote:
I know a couple of people who I'm certain are aspies, but the only one who's got a full diagnosis and is very open about it is also the only one I can't deal with.
Every time anything comes up he's uncomfortable with it's "I can't do that, I have aspergers" or "you cant expect me to know that, I have aspergers" and... anything. Nothing is his fault, he has no drive to improve himself, and it really gets to me that he still hasn't figured out I have exactly the same problem as him, while he expects me to make over-the-top special allowances for him that he'd never make for other people. He is still a genuinely nice person, but I can never get over the ridiculousness of the situation to really appreciate that.
Of course, the other aspies I know are all lovely, wonderful people who are a real pleasure to be around - very mindful, courteous, polite, intelligent and well-informed =)
Every time anything comes up he's uncomfortable with it's "I can't do that, I have aspergers" or "you cant expect me to know that, I have aspergers" and... anything. Nothing is his fault, he has no drive to improve himself, and it really gets to me that he still hasn't figured out I have exactly the same problem as him, while he expects me to make over-the-top special allowances for him that he'd never make for other people. He is still a genuinely nice person, but I can never get over the ridiculousness of the situation to really appreciate that.
Of course, the other aspies I know are all lovely, wonderful people who are a real pleasure to be around - very mindful, courteous, polite, intelligent and well-informed =)
There is one guy I know who's autistic (though he now claims his self-diagnosis was mistaken... I doubt it), and one of the things that always bothered me about him is that he'd blame his issues on things like being autistic.
In the program I'm in, students are supposed to sign in every day. I pointed out the fact that it was odd that he'd miss 50 days (or so) over two semesters' time while I only missed 3 and he said, as if it explained everything, "I am autistic!"
...He doesn't know that I am, too.
I've noticed this about some people, the 'I don't have to try because I have x/y or z' people. I won't go into my experience of this. It's something that really gets me angry.
About this person, if I were to have met them, they probably would get an earfull (because I get really annoyed by that attitude). I'd probably say that I have it too (and have a degree) so what's your problem. But bear in mind that I would be saying this because I dislike this attitude.
I'm mostly harmless though (The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy)
.I just reread this and realised that I may have sounded over the top with my post. The reason why I get so upset/angry with the 'I can do this because of x, y or z' or 'I can't do this because of x, y or z' is because in my case a person used his depression as an excuse to abuse me verbally. He'd verbally abuse me and say 'I have depression, this is ok for me to do because I have depression', no saying sorry or anything.
Anyways, sorry if I was over the top with my previous post here.
03 Jan 2010, 1:25 pm
I socialise quite well with Aspies
Vivienne
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03 Jan 2010, 1:34 pm
03 Jan 2010, 2:22 pm
03 Jan 2010, 2:35 pm
Vivienne wrote:
I pretty much 'turn into' whoever I'm with.
I can relate to that, I think of myself as a sponge. I adopt people's interests or obsessions. Sometimes I feel like I have no personality or interests of my own and I'm just a vapour. I take on people's sayings, speech patterns and mannerisms too. I think I'm just weird
