I'm creepy?

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Oh, Of course! Thousands of times - One of my favorites.

That person who walked in and said that was the one being creepy..Clingy Neurofacists who call an aspie creepy for wanting a break from the high level of socializing are creepy...Aspies who wish for a break are not.

I haven't been called creepy for doing that (and I have many times) but I have been called 2 other things, one being wierd, which is common, and the other being scary, which is surprising. In the last several years I've been called scary more times than I care to admit and it's an extremely strange feeling.

Course, I've been called wierd all my life and I wear that as a badge now lol.

As for being called creepy, I'd just ignore them most likely. Possibly a "Meh, I got annoyed in there, came out here to avoid doing something stupid." That answer makes you seem like someone who rationally avoided an impending bad situation ^_^

Once at a cocktail party where I knew only 2 of the 40 guests, I told those 2 I was tired and proceeded to pretend to fall asleep on the futon out the back. If I would have said - I feel a bit uncomfortable here- they would have said don't be so uptight. I've been to parties/gatherings and not had a problem, just sometimes it's a little bit too much and the best thing to do is to just take a step away.

But also when you get to your 10th beer and your brain is slowing down and you don't have the ability to overthink things, I tend to get animate.

Though 99% I can't remember it. Maybe that's MPD.

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I get called SPED and "ret*d". Being called "Creepy" would actually be an improvement.

But I understand your post. No one has the right to label anyone like that.

I have a great deal of past experience in dealing with the OP's problem, dating from the time that I had a career and had to attend many social functions. I didn't know about HFA or AS at the time, but was very aware that I could only take so much party atmosphere (particularly noise and brouhaha), or even small talk after a dinner party.

I developed many strategies for coping, mostly by finding an acceptable opportunity/pretext for temporary escape. Mostly I didn't announce that I was absenting myself; I just slipped away for a while. If the weather was reasonable, I might go outside where it was quiet. If asked where I was going or what I had been doing, I would simply answer something like it was nice and cool outside, the flowers in the garden smelled great, or I was checking out the stars. If there were children there, particularly smaller ones, another tactic that I used was to go and visit with them. I adore kids and get along great with them, and interacting with them is very relaxing (like pets I guess!). Instead of being perceived as weird for wanting to escape from the noisy crowd, this generally comes across as being sweet for thinking of the kids. Apart from temporarily escaping, I almost always stayed on the fringes of a party, in a quieter room with fewer people, and I often left early.

I don't believe that I have ever been called weird or creepy, despite the many times that I escaped from social situations. I think that this is because I am not vulnerable, and don't appear vulnerable. People call others creepy only when they sense they can get away with it, not just because they are different. In hindsight, I realize that I would never tell anyone that I needed "alone time" - that would be projecting weakness, which I have always avoided at all costs.

If someone did call me creepy, I am sure that I would not be angry, intimidated, or abashed in any way (I care very little about others' opinions of me). I would probably nip such a comment in the bud with a simple, calm statement such as: "I guess some people just don't appreciate celestial beauty" or "floral aromas" or whatever, bearing in mind that I haven't told them that I needed "down time".

As a prologue, I would note that I put with and coped with a lot because I believed that I needed to earn money to live. As soon as I was financially able, I escaped such social gatherings permanently and now live alone, socially isolated, in a nature reserve, and I love this life.

I've never attended a party with such loud noise so I wouldn't know if I would need alone time.

I bellieve it is a pecking order thing, and then throwing around put-downs like "creepy" is just driving a nail int the coffin to make sure that they are well above you in that order. However I doubt that they are as likely to analyze what they are doing as an aspie would. In their case, it seems to simply be an animal instinct. The ones that analyze it and deliberately use it are sociopaths and/or morally bereft .

That's what I did but was on the phone instead and my reaction would of been the same but I try not to retreat to a safe spot, I would just sit there in silence, when they talk to me, I talk but and yes sometimes I would stutter if I wouldn't know what is going on and would feel panicky inside and I would eventually feel very drained.... soon as I reached home, I fell straight to sleep because of how exhausted I was just by socializing... wow

they probably didn't give it much thought. consider the source, always. this is a touchy topic for me lately...the biggest creeps are the ones everyone likes, usually.

Agreed. That person who came in was kind of a punk. There are myriad reasons somebody could want to be alone for some time.

This probably has something to do with the deep-rooted societal distrust of "loners". From the worship of lonesome, powerful hero figures our society seems to have "progressed" to the other extreme, viz., that of labeling everyone who wants to be alone for a moment as a potential terrorist or serial killer. Not that those people thought you were (at least I hope they didn't), but the stigma of the loner/nutcase remains and extends to those who are completely innocent and harmless.

Fortunately, most of my friends and colleagues are aware of my limitations and are very accommodating when I ask for space or time.

One of my office holiday parties was at the home of a colleague who has a social anxiety disorder. One room was set aside where people (well, he and I) could disengage from the crowd for a little while to recharge. Bliss!

When I was in the phytratic ward all the staff seemed to be really freaked out when I told them I spent most of my time alone. I've always been decribed as a loner and my parents always accepted it because they knew if I was alone I was usualy up to something creative such as painting a picture, writing a story or desiging a computer game. I can't function in the company of other people breathing down my neck and getting in my way. People have often tried to use my special intrest in meerkats against me by saying that I should be more like meerkats and be more social with people. WTF? Meerkats are social with other meerkats, not people. NT's sure have some stupid ideas sometimes.

Beautiful!