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Do people find you too distant (read options carefully)
Yes, but I don't care about them anyway. 31%  31%  [ 16 ]
Yes, even though I try to be open 39%  39%  [ 20 ]
Sometimes, it depends. 22%  22%  [ 11 ]
Nope, I'm an open book. 8%  8%  [ 4 ]
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18 Jan 2010, 2:57 pm

It is one of my biggest problems in relationships with others



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18 Jan 2010, 4:41 pm

Not sure I'd really know how to "be open with people", I guess it just happens if I trust the person enough.

If I tell someone about my AS, though, it means I trust them. But I've told verrrrrry few NTs. If anyone asks about my special needs, I'll say I want to keep it private (or hint at that by just saying "I've got something"), and will generally only say I have dyspraxia if I have to tell them.

However, I don't hide it if someone asks me. If someone asks me if I have AS/autism, I'll tell them so, because they clearly have taken time to learn what those things are instead of taking the Rain Man stereotype.

But, I'm going on a tangent.

The main point to make when it comes to being open is that I have no idea what I'm feeling about most things - my emotions are somehow disconnected from my brain. I can work them out by analyzing things in my head or by writing poetry. I usually do the former, which takes months.

So, if I trust someone enough, I'll be likely to share with them what I know. And maybe I'll work things out as I'm talking to them, too. And I won't lie about things concerning emotions either. But I can't be fully open because I don't know how.



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18 Jan 2010, 6:07 pm

Honestly i'm scared to let people know the real me. I know what their reaction would be and it's not something i want to deal with. So i choose put across the image i decide, knowing it also means people see me as distant and uncaring.



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18 Jan 2010, 6:31 pm

No, I don't really see myself as open in my opinion, I normally like to keep myself to myself... The only time when I tell people and be open is when I feel comfortable and also to the people who I feel I can trust :D


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19 Jan 2010, 6:00 pm

Spokane_Girl wrote:
My ex was very private and didn't want people knowing about his life. My mom said people like that are hiding something and they have done something wrong. So careful everyone.


Or maybe they think that it's nobody elses business, or they can't be open with people. Your mother just put everyone who doesn't like providing the local people with gossip into the criminals/evil category. Hardly fair.



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19 Jan 2010, 7:32 pm

dustintorch wrote:
when I first meet people, I'm reserved and closed. When I get to know them I'm completely opposite and give people too much information.


This! The amount of times people have been like "That's a little too far mate..." is ridiculous.