I wish my family supported me more!! !! !

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I'm sorry if my whining of sorts upsets you guys. IMO I find it nice to have somewhere to come and someone (although strangers on a messageboard) to vent to. and BTW I'm looking for a job but life is kind of scary and nerv racking with a job/college etc. when you've already screwed up twice before (IMO I'd compare it to alcoholism except death/jail you just have JAIL) and I don't want my issues to land me there. Coming to WP helps me learn more about myself and trust me in a perfect world I'd have a friend/boyfriend who's understanding of my faults. Sure being alone gets you away from your parents but what am I going to be? The 20 something year old cat lady LOL! UH NO THANKS! I deal with my parents and if there are issues I get support from the only place I know where sadly which is WP. Trust me if things start going right for me I'll HOPEFULLY end up back in College and hey maybe write a paper on Asperger's LOL! That'd be neat. LOL! Thanks for those who support me and I understand the hard criticism it's upsetting but warrented I guess. Thanks again!! !!

Ignore it...WP is supposed to be an outlet and a place for support.

Well, that's one way of looking at it. Pointless venting & whining may make you feel better but it is no real solution. It's all well & good to come here and complain about how unfair the world is and how no one understands but that's not going to solve anything. I'd like to think this board is also for real world solutions to real life problems, not just a kumbia pity party where everyone agrees.

Cheers.

Agreed. Like I said hopefully things will start going good for me soon and I can find a job and such.

well also you have to look at how dads are. Fathers are weird, they dont like to admit anything is wrong with their offspring, so when something is abnormal (I am not going to say that autism is "something wrong") that their child, their seed, is doing...they just nut up. The basic instinct is to deny there is an issue and the second thing they do is push the child away. Sometimes I think it is evolutionary/biological thing. But most of the time, the mother ends up carrying the load when a child has a disability. Some dads are more evolved than others. I am sorry your dad is not supportive. I know how it feels because my dad made fun of me alot when I was growing up and not in a "we are not laughing at you, we laughing with you" kind of way either. He was also abusive to my mother and my brother. The sucky part was guess who ended up taking care of that jerk when he was dying...you guessed it...me and my mother. My sister and brother were too busy and could not deal with his nasty disposition....go figure

So just know that your dad is a little closer to his roots, evolutionarily speaking, but not to worry...genetic science has shown that children get their inteligence from their mother, so your are in the clear there.

Jojo

WOW! YUMMY! (You just wet my appetite) For someone who loves Psychology that'd make ONE hell of a study! OMG I love Psychology!! !! !! !! YA YUMMY!! !! !! Thanks!! !! !! !! !!

Not really, it's more a concequence of the traits rather than a trait itself. The fact is if we can (most of us at least) put the effort in to compensate for those traits then we'd be much less annoying.

For example when Zelda gets excited about something she wants to see she can predict that her exitement will most likely annoy her dad because it's something he cares little for and is of no consequence to him, normally he'd humour his daughter and listen to her excited rambling but since he's heard the same thing ten million times before it's only natural that he'd get annoyed by it, I'm sure Zelda would be annoyed by someone doing the same about something she has no interest in. So instead of annoying her dad (which she knows will happen) she could come online instead and talk about it with people who have similar interests or she could talk to a friend irl with similar interests.

Him snapping at you shouldn't be seen as him being mean you should take it as a signal to annoy him less. You'll get on much bett with him if you do that and you may even get to the point where you enjoy each others company.

Some people have a different definition of support I guess, facilitating self indulgence isn't support in my book, you post in The Haven if you just want to moan with no effective solutions.

actually, when a person does vent, they clear their head of negative thoughts, then their mind is clear of any hinderance which will allow them to make more sound decisons. At least for me, when I vent, I then feel better, and when I feel better, I can think more clearly and on a more rational perspective and solve my problems on my own and more effectively.


So from your standpoint, should those who support free speech and who disagree with the HRC censorship commissions in Canada shut up since these commissions are reality?Should Parliament continue to be prorogued in Canada since the government is already in power and no matter how many Question periods we have, it isn't going to change government policies?That is reality after all, eh?

The reply to both your above points is the same, you are being overly extreme in your reply and inventing a responce from me that didn't happen so you can tear it down.

Him snapping at her is his failing. Snapping is never the correct or best responce. Her telling him too much when she should try to do it less and/or talk to someone else is her failing. They both could handle it better. You are 100% blaming her, which is unfair and i'm telling you so.

You then accuse me of doing the same thing with your comments about "self indulgence". You will note i didn't say "there there it's all his fault, they're so mean". I actually challenged her to consider the situation from their point of view, whilst stating that telling her to simply move out and she's moaning too much is not useful or constructive.

My replies are balanced, those blaming her and telling her it's all her fault are not, neither are those telling her not to come to WP and moan.