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heatherbabes
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26 Jan 2010, 7:17 am

haha that smiley at the end of your post is perfect! It's EXACTLY how I feel.

But I choose a different route. When someone patronizes me, or acts other than "natural" with me because I have AS or any other issue... I use that opportunity to educate. It comes from ignorance... from not knowing, never having much exposure to something. That's all. So, with that in mind, I expose them.. I let them know... and they no longer remain ignorant :)



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26 Jan 2010, 2:56 pm

Philologos wrote:
Recently reached the tipping point, realized that Asperger's of some level explains too many incidents from my past to ignore. Asked some of my siblings to do me a favor and run over the AQ test just to feed my curiosity some data. The sibling most likely to respond normally has been completely silent. The one who most disapproves of me did send me a score [where I had predicted for him, blasted me for asking [he is allegedly a scientist - has he no data appetite?], told me I certainly was no Aspie [he claims to be a great expert, having known two], accused me of picking a fight with him, overreacting to him, and claiming Asperger "to excuse my behavior" - like what behavior, do I even dare ask?

All of which confirms my instinct to tell the Mob as little as possible.

Anybody get support or interest out of mentionin spectrum status to the worthy NT?


not at this point. I'm at the point of concluding it's not worth bringing it up. My family sounds a bit like yours, I don't have and have never had an ally in my family, except for my grandmother, who passed on in 2003. They cling to my initial diagnosis of bi-polar and my parents in particular seem really threatened at the thought of losing the ability to designate me as the 'crazy one' in the family. The more I learn about my family in terms of the abuse/addiction/insanity issues (and I have learned a whole lot more this year, having previously believed I knew every thing) the more I think I may be the most 'normal' person in the bunch.



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26 Jan 2010, 3:10 pm

"The more I learn about my family in terms of the abuse/addiction/insanity issues (and I have learned a whole lot more this year, having previously believed I knew every thing) the more I think I may be the most 'normal' person in the bunch."

I have had the fortunate pleasure of being the only sane child in a house. It does get to the point where they can convince you that YOU are the abnormal one. Because, if, say, you live in a house with four people who happen to have bipolar disorder, and you are the only one who does not have, by the very definition of "normal," you are not. Because the norm in that house happens to be bipolar disorder.

And so, to them, you just might *be* the "crazy" one. :)



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26 Jan 2010, 3:57 pm

Probably my whole family knows (I'm not sure, because it would be a long time a go that my parents told them), and they accept it. Also some friends know it, but they are also Aspies (or at least suspected). I told it to my group at high school, 2 times (out of the 6), but I felt that the persons in that group here nice to me. Currently I would tell anybody who would ask about it, assuming I trust/know them enough. I felt that it made communication with some of these ppl easier.



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27 Jan 2010, 9:52 am

/the more I think I may be the most 'normal' person in the bunch./

Well, yes, frankly. The only other contender is my extremly NT-seeming oh so healthy and adjusted sister - and she is a chameleon whose real shape cannot be ascertained. Everybody else - for at least three generations back on my father's side - has more problems than I have, even if they are more societally acceptable.

We [nuclear family] suspect that there is morde than a touch of undiagnosed and unsupported spectrum traits in several of them.