Dislike of being touched

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lol im like this and i like cuddling too i just dont like being touched by strangers, when im not expecting it or people i dont like/trust

i also dont like people touching the sides of my face what mainly makes me recoil is if they have sweaty hands i cant stand it

Yes, a few situations. A routine examination conducted by a doctor, for some reason I find this very relaxing, peaceful and soothing, I don't mind the touches involved.

But if I'm at home surfing the 'net and all of a sudden I feel my mother's hand on my shoulder, or my father, I feel this instant physical revulsion and jerk away immediately, looking towards them questioningly, perhaps. It really leaves me unnerved and takes me some time to recover.

When I was a kid I remember my mother crying because I instinctively jumped away from being touched. She took it personally.

As an adult I don't mind firm touches provided I'm expecting them, but there are some large parts of my body - strangely each side of my belly that I can't bear anyone to touch - the sensation is overwhelming like my skin is screaming at me. The lighter the touch the worse the sensation.

I have a really hard time with my mom touching/hugging me...she uses this really light touch that gives me the heebeejeebees all over....both parents really...it sets me off...I try to control it because they are my parents...but it still bugs me..

I thrived on being touched, I love to be touched.

I only like being touched if I approve of it myself. Other times, it feels really uncomfortable and I avoid it as much as possible!

I used to hate being touched even if it was my mother. I felt very violated.

I don't mind social touch now, though sometimes I take an instinctive dislike to certain people and don't want them to touch me.

i don't like to be touched when i don't expect it, and i really dislike being touched by strangers. when i am at work, i go out of my way to make sure i don't have to make physical contact with our customers, and when i do it freaks me out, and makes my skin crawls. when i am not expecting to be touched, even by people i know, it makes me nervous and uncomfortable.
at the same time though, i love hugs from my friends. i love holding hands with people i care about. and when i am having a meltdown, and my friend E is around me, he will put his hand on the back of my neck under my hair and draw his nails over my skin, or draw designs on the back of my neck, and it calms me down substantially. i love cuddling, and (as odd as it may sound) i love to sit on people's laps, when i am watching a movie with friends, or even just hanging out. and when i am working with my little kids (i play with preschool age children once a week), i love to let them climb all over me, swing them around in the air, and give them piggy back rides and the like. i am only open to casual touch like this with my friends, and with my kids i help, though. i bristle when my mother tries to hug me, and, with the exception of my maternal grandparents, who i don't see often, my family only ever gets half body hugs from me and little to no physical contact except that.
so for me, it just depends on who is touching me, and whether i expect the touch or not.

Last edited by Ray_Carver on 08 Feb 2010, 8:07 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I hate being unexpectantly touched and I find hugging (as in greeting and saying goodbye) very awkward.
Though I have snuggled up to a loved one. I get bored with that too.

I like being touched more than most NTs do, and when somebody bumps into me I don't have a problem with it. But I hate shaking hands, or being grabbed by strangers. Sometimes I don't want to be touched, but it depends on who does it.

I have never liked it really. I accept hugs from family and relatives without problems. Although I have difficulties with my aut, the way she touch me is really creepy for some reason, its just the way she do it..

Strangers Im fine with shaking hand, but if they get the idea to touch or hug or getting closer than that I get offended. Although I can "take" such a situation easier nowadays without totally freaking out.... I get pissed off but I dont show it

Can't stand my neck being touched most of the time, because it's very sensitive. I don't like being touched by people I don't know, although I'm led to believe that's common among non-autistics as well. And if I am sitting next to someone on the couch, I don't like it if our legs touch or something, because I'm not sure if it's appropriate and start getting nervous wondering if it's weird. And more than anything else, I HATE being tickled. It hurts.

I always liked hugs but I could never stand being touched or hugged for too long. About a month before I started dating my boyfriend, though, when we were just friends, I realized that it didn't bug me when we were touching like that. I'd always kind of wanted to cuddle with someone so when we were hanging out I would use him as a pillow, which eventually led into us dating. I love cuddling with him, but the idea of touching someone else for more than a few seconds makes my skin crawl.

If someone comes up from behind, covers my eyes and says "Guess Who?", I just freak out and attack them as if I was being raped. My mother was paranoid that a pedophile would snatch me up but when they grabed me, I would hit kick and bite so hard and scream so loud anyone in a three mile radius could hear me. Only a very stupid pedophile would try to snatch me up. I can't stand for anyone to touch me and WILL attack if someone is dumb enough to try. I fear I will be arested some day because some stupid cop would grab me and I would get so freaked out I would lash out at them physicaly. I hated to be kissed and would hit the dumbass who was dumb enough to try. My parents used to tell me I will have to kiss my husband someday. I am asexual. I don't even like feeling close "emotionaly" to someone. I'll shake hands with a person (and wash my hands throughly when I get to the closet sink) but hugs are strictly off limits. As a kid I would refuse to hug people and when my parents tried to push me I would go into a meltdown. As I got older I learned how to "fake" hugs but choose to avoid hugging as an adult.

I can physicaly feel people's auras or a dense energy feild coming from them and it's physicaly painful to me. Grumpier, fatter people tend to have the densest energy. Bubbly, peppy, happy-go-lucky people have a sharp, stingy just agravating energy. It's the worst. I can sence this in every human being and even some animals (which dosen't bother me and is actualy pretty neat). I think all people can do this they just aren't aware of it. I've never been able to explain it but if something so much as brushes up against my knees, elbows or knuckles when they are unbent I feel like I am going to faint. My mom thinks she is funny sometimes and delebrity taps them when they are unbent and laughs. It really does make me feel like I will pass out. This was my biggest secret among other kids becuase I knew if they found out, they would definatly use it to their advantage. I went to school with some kids who were litteraly little sociopaths.

Some stupid physical therapist wanted my mom to do joint compression and skin brushing to "help" be become "desentised" to this. I guess to her you can "desentise" a person's sensetivity to having their throat slit. She let my mom bend my knees for the first few weeks of the sessions because I would freak out and would get violent if someone tried to do so when they were unbent. She said it would defeat the whole purpose if my mom did the joint compressions when my joints were bent. She didn't even show my mom how to do it right because when she "compressed" my head it felt as if she were trying to smash cinder blocks on top of my head. I always got severe headaches afterwards and eventully would attack my mom or hide from her if she tried to do the join compressions or the brushing. A touched unbent joint is my kryptonite or "soft spot".

I will only let people touch me on my own terms with my consent. Light touch is painful to me but I could cut myself accidenly and not notice until the room looked like the set of CSI. I had to have stiches once when I sliced the tip of my finger open with an exacto knife working on a custom MLP. I didn't feel anything but kept wondering why my fingers felt damp and sticky. It wouldn't stop bleading so I had to get stiches. I didn't have the paitience to wait for the novicane to take compete effect so I had the tip of my finger stiched up and just endured it and it didn't really hurt that much anyway. I can literly shut off the ability to feel "deep" pain and sometimes it just happens automatically. If I was in a car crash and wasn't knocked unconcious, I would probably be able to get out of the vhehicle, walk to a pay phone and call a taxi to take me whereever I was going. Passers by would freak out and call 911 and I would be using the last of my energy to fight off the paramedics because they were touching me.

I even had my bottm wisdom teeth which were REALLY impacted removed with a local anestetic by an "old fashioned" type dentist. I wanted him to remove the top ones but he said that would be too risky with a local. I had them out via an oral surgeon and was on my feet as soon as the anestesia wore off. Every chiropracter I have ever been to has stated "I wish all my paitents were as a relaxed as you." Having my back and joints cracked is just about the most soothing and relaxing thing I can think of. I guess it is how most people would describe an orgasim. I've always perfered the chiropracters who seemed a bit "rougher". What most people would consider painful I either find it relaxing or no diffrent than anything else. What I find painful most people would veiw as netural or pleasurable.

i rub off the part where someone touches me if it's done without my permission. i tend to tighten up to touch as well. i love prepared hugs though.
speaking of skin sensory i like to dig my fingernails in to my hands when i'm bored or constricted in my mind.

yeah, it feels like there's some kind of residue on you on where they touched, right? or if somebody touches me on one side, but not the other, that can annoy me if i let it.

I also don't like being touched sexually, unless it's during sex. Which is very rare.

Last edited by BoringAaron on 11 Feb 2010, 10:03 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I'm very uncomfortable with it but I can shake hands or give a hug if I really need to but prefer not. When I was younger and around children I was close to I was comfortable in a maternal sense to hold or comfort them but I haven't been around children in a long time. My cats are quite affectionate and I like and am comfortable with that. I always have a strong need to wash my hands when I shake someone's hand or touch something someone else touched. Germs I guess. I have a powerful startle reflex and don't like to be touched unexpectedly. I'm just very uncomfortable with it outside of kids I know really well and animals.