I seem "fine" to some . . .

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When first meeting people [unless I have reason to be defensive] I put on normal. Change my speech patterns [more professorial to academics, more Regular Joe to nonacademics]. Try to approximate eye contact, shake hands, try to find a question to ask.

But I can go the opposite way and max out my oddness if I feel the need to hold people off - think the caterpillar with the scary eyes on its rump.

I don't know that it works - the people who are going to like me eventually do and the others move away.

I have rarely been told I "seem fine" - more often people give me hints on how to change. But once this guy totally horrified me, smiling, touching me, and announcing to a group that I was "basically a warm person". Well, depends on definitions, but I have some warmth - I just was not prepared to have everybody told about it.

It's hard to tell for anybody even myself if anybody has aspergers. It's nearly impossible to tell unless they have some really noticable signs. When people talk to me it's like im a normal person now that' i've learned to grow wiser and adapt and the meds. You really have to be around a AS person for a while and get to know them in order to tell and that's if they are even aware about autism.