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Philologos
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02 Mar 2010, 12:46 am

In the olden time, when I was a student, I would not infrequently meet a fellow student on campus who would say, Are you coming to [this or that student party or get together or other event]? I generally said, Maybe. And, yes, it was a possibility. But I never did. Though about twice I set out, hung around outside watching people go in, then went away.



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02 Mar 2010, 1:04 am

MyFutureSelfnMe wrote:
Wow, I finally got around to this thread.

Brennan, lots of people don't care about, let alone celebrate their birthdays. You don't have to have asperger syndrome. One thing that Australia tends to have in common with the American south is that people don't mind their own business. These situations are much easier for me to deal with, because I make no attempt whatsoever to accommodate other peoples' inability to stick to their own business. I will tell them point blank that I have nothing to say to them.

This gets one of three reactions from others:

- Amusement
- Respect (tends to accompany amusement)
- Horrified

Usually if it's the third category, it's not someone I have to answer to so I don't care.


I totally agree that many people don't celebrate their birthdays rather than it being something unique to Asperger's. However, this was the most recent example of said co-worker being disappointed in my reaction to something that she would get excited about, so was most in my mind.

I really do wish people minded their own business a little more.