Ever been accused of calling yourself an aspie to be trendy?

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11 Mar 2010, 12:52 am

Not me. I've been told that I don't look autistic.

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11 Mar 2010, 2:07 am

No, never. I don't call myself an aspie anyway. I hate that word, I always have and always will. I don't understand how calling yourself an aspie can be seen as trendy anyway.

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11 Mar 2010, 5:19 am

I learned that there is a trend of calling yourself an Aspie when I idly posted the AQ test on another board to see where some of my favorite argument/debate foes and friends scored, strictly out of curiousity, without mentioning that I suspected myself to be on the spectrum.

"Oh you're just another deviantart aspie using it as an excuse for being awkward and wanting the world to know you're a creative special butterfly, stfu Max"...

Uh, ok, wut?

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11 Mar 2010, 7:56 am

Dox47 wrote:

Whenever I've seen Aspergers denial, it's always seemed to come down to the denier thinking that the presumed Aspie is going to try to use the diagnosis as an excuse for past or future behavior.

As a result of going into denial, I gave up middle-rate DLA and suffered countless personal humiliations in the name of trying to make a contribution to a society that couldn't care less about me. Don't talk to me about excuses.

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11 Mar 2010, 9:26 am

EnglishInvader wrote:

Dox47 wrote:

Whenever I've seen Aspergers denial, it's always seemed to come down to the denier thinking that the presumed Aspie is going to try to use the diagnosis as an excuse for past or future behavior.

what's a DLA?

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11 Mar 2010, 9:56 am

sinsboldly wrote:

EnglishInvader wrote:

Dox47 wrote:

Whenever I've seen Aspergers denial, it's always seemed to come down to the denier thinking that the presumed Aspie is going to try to use the diagnosis as an excuse for past or future behavior.

what's a DLA?

DLA stands for Disability Living Allowance.

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11 Mar 2010, 10:01 am

Dox47 wrote:

Whenever I've seen Aspergers denial, it's always seemed to come down to the denier thinking that the presumed Aspie is going to try to use the diagnosis as an excuse for past or future behavior. I've seen this on a number of occasions second hand, usually coming from the family of a self diagnosed or suspected Aspie. This often leads to a fixation by the Aspie to get properlay diagnosed, and the implied idea that once their condition has been "legitimized" that the deniers will HAVE to take their autism into account regarding past problems. I've found that making extremely clear that the diagnosis is only part of a process of self discovery and not going to be used as a sort of get out of jail free card for misbehavior can go a long way in quashing this kind of thing.

Exactly. I don't discuss my (not officially diagnosed) AS with too many ppl, but my husband seemed to take that attitude. I don't really care, though, because *I* understand things that have never made sense to me before and that's worth more than anyone else's "stamp of approval". *I* know I am not selfish, uncaring, weird, or anything else ppl want to throw at me. The "label" is only good for understanding and learning ways to adapt, IMHO.

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12 Mar 2010, 9:40 am

No.
I hate that word and I hate the word trendy.
I use my not caring as an excuse.
Although that is not much of an excuse.
It is useful because people usually try to guilt-trip me which never works.
I try not to submit to fallacies.

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12 Mar 2010, 10:35 am

Ever get the feeling that the whole 'trendy diagnoses' thing is just BS made up by the internet? I've only ever encountered that once in real life, everyone else looks puzzled when I talk about it!

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12 Mar 2010, 10:50 am

I hate being an "aspie" or having "Asperger's" partly for this reason. I'd rather be called flat out autistic.

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12 Mar 2010, 10:23 pm

gramirez wrote:

I hate being an "aspie" or having "Asperger's" partly for this reason. I'd rather be called flat out autistic.

we might very well be calling ourselves 'autistic' after the new DSM comes out.

I don't mind, though, I kinda like being 'generic' in that way. Frankly when someone breaks out the long explanation starting with vague 'odd duck' references and finishing up with some rare neurological condition you have never heard about most people start inching towards the door. Autistic seems like a cool word, like MS or Diabetes, easily recognized just waiting for us to set free their preconceived ideas of what it really is to be autistic.

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12 Mar 2010, 10:50 pm

Never.
I rarely ever mention that I have Asperger's, and for two reasons:
1) It's very a mild case, so most of the time I try to over look it
2) I'm often afraid that when someone finds out, they're going to think aspie = autistic = ret*d = stupid

Although I admit that when I'm having troubles, or when a friend of mine wants to know more about me because I'm not very open, I will sometimes blurt out that I have AS & blame my problems on it.

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12 Mar 2010, 10:58 pm

_Square_Peg_ wrote:

Never.
Although I admit that when I'm having troubles, or when a friend of mine wants to know more about me because I'm not very open, I will sometimes blurt out that I have AS & blame my problems on it.

Well, it probably IS why you dont want to be more open, so explaining you have AS is probably helpful in that case. Now using it to get out of work/ school/ real life would be more what a lot of folks are talking about.

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13 Mar 2010, 1:40 am

_Square_Peg_ wrote:

they would forgive you for being stupid, but a-social? never. . .

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13 Mar 2010, 6:08 am

I do not even understand.
Sure, I understand not wanting to interact with someone who comes off as odd, I did so in a dream, I thought he was going to stab me.
But to put them down and make sure no one else also interacts with them?
Makes no sense.
It is like pi, irrational.

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13 Mar 2010, 6:45 am

EnglishInvader wrote:

Dox47 wrote:

Whenever I've seen Aspergers denial, it's always seemed to come down to the denier thinking that the presumed Aspie is going to try to use the diagnosis as an excuse for past or future behavior.

I think you misunderstood me, I wasn't talking about Aspies being in denial about their diagnosis but rather when non-Aspies try to deny that the person in question actually has AS or otherwise tries to minimize or downplay the condition. As I said, I've seen this second hand on a number of occasions, and I am of the opinion that the motivation for the non-AS people who do this usually comes down to a suspicion that the diagnosis is going to be used to demand special treatment of some sort, and that a good way to reduce the likelihood of this happening is to frame the diagnosis in personal awareness terms. Hope that helps clear things up.

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