How do you survive as an adult?

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No, you can't necessarily do anything you put your mind to. I moved Out on my own and almost starved until I got services. And food was far from the only problem. I had trouble in literally every skill area they measure you in when you get services and some they don't measure.

Fortunately I was able to get SSI and get services that supported me in my own home even as my impairments (not just autism related) got severe enough people started talking about nursing homes. Because otherwise I would have been in serious trouble.

It's not the life people prepared me for and it was hard to get over my work ethic that told me if I couldn't work I was an awful person. But it's the life I've got and I have found it to be just as possible to be happy as any other life.

You're only 14. When I was 14 I started to make friends, and I was way worse at it then I am now. I'm not great now, but I can talk to people with a lot more ease. I also couldn't buy things for myself so I had to learn. I had to learn to cook and take batter care of myself. I also had to try to grow accustomed to change. I had to go to college and catch a train to another city. It was hard but I eventually got the hang of it.

What I'm trying to say is you will build up more skills as you get older. Don't just say you'll never work. People need to work to survive. Many people here have jobs.
Can you go out and buy yourself something like a chocolate bar or a packet of chips? If not, keep trying.
Don't just rely to buy food online. What happens when you lose your connection, need to get it fixed and don't have the internet for 6 weeks? It happens.

I, my younger brother and mother seem to share this social "ineptness" and am pretty sure the 3 of us all have aspergers. But, I think it was the fact that I saw my mother dealing with autism that I myself tried to learn to do things on my own, even if my boss didnt like me, I showed up for work on time, needed something, mwent out and got it with my own money. Trying to be a role model for my bro. Mabye a bit too hard sometimes. I need to percieve my limit's better consider that I am lacking so much social abily. I think my problem is not an inability saying no, but a prbolem of being closed minded and saying it too much.


Last week I read a letter I wrote to myself in the 12th grade and I just seemed to hopeless. I'd really like to prove myself wrong one day. IDK if its possible or not but finding out should be fun :/.