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I only do it with the people I'm closest to, and that's because I only truly and fully open up to the people I'm closest to. I used to give rambling monologues about my special interests to everybody I came in contact with, but I've learned to save that for my mom and my best friend only. They care about what I have to say. But 9 times out of 10, when I'm talking with them, it's about my current primary special interest. And I see nothing wrong with that, so long as you do give them time to express their opinions and feelings and stories about their day's events.
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That's certainly true sometimes, but I find myself repeating long rants and arguments on the same subjects over and over and over EVEN WHEN I'M COMPLETELY ALONE. Who the hell am I trying to convince? I have no idea, sometimes I'm having an imaginary conversation with someone I know and sometimes I'm just emotionally pontificating to myself and I really wish it would stop. It gets me all worked up for nothing. Just another one of those constant stresses that leads to periodic psychological burnout. But yeah, there are long, long heated monologues I've had thousands of times over periods of many years. Please, God, make it stop.

I used to suffer from intense obsessions which almost made me psychotic. It was all cleared up after I started using SSRI antidepressants.

League Girl, sometimes it isn't really lying. It is that a person, especially an NT, will not remember something the same way. They think too long about it or time passes by and they actually feel differently NOW, so they superimpose that feeling they have now on the situation in the past, That probably makes no sense.

To use your illustration of 9/11- Lets say at the time you were in a state of disbelief and numbness for a couple of weeks, then as you processed the event you became angered and sad. Now someone asks you about the event, and you say "Oh I was so angry and sad!". Well, you are not lying- that is how you felt, but not right away. At first you were not that way, but the stronger feelings you had some time later are more memorable. As a person with AS you are probably a lot more precise about memories, but an NT will most likely recall the most recent or strongest feelings associated with the memories or even project how they feel right now onto that memory.

I think that is annoying too, incidentally, especially when they recall something totally differently to others right in front of you. But it isn't always an outright lie.

Wow I do this too- maybe not to the same extreme but close enough. I am glad I only do it to myself and not to others, though.

I frequently catch myself repeating the same things over and over. I call it "talking in circles". I think it's because I realize that I speak in a monotone, and I want to repeat all the important things that I say because I can't put emphasis on them using my tone of voice.

I do this. It's like I feel that if I not am repeating something enough, the other person will not understand how strongly it is bothering/interesting me. It is is like I must explain, in very detailed nuances, what it is and how in such a way, it is effecting me. otherwise I am afraid they'll never get it.
And it's also because I don't get tired of talking about a certain subject. It's as if it never becomes boring.

For some strange reason Pensieve, I knew exactly what you meant.

GUILTY!

WOW! I tend to say the same thing over and family will say "you already said that." I also replay things people have said in my head since as you put "I'm trying to figure it out and I can't aswell." (Specifically HOW to change my behavior not upset others etc.)