What is it like when 2 Aspies meet?

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It goes the same way as meeting other people except that you have more problems in common.
I have a friend who is a little older than me with AS and sometimes that friend is difficult to talk with because of the rigidness this friend maintains in relation to some ideas. We mostly talk about being AS and how to navigate situation.
I have friends who are younger than me that have more of my same interests and it's fine. We have the same sense of humour and the same ideas about things and it goes more smoothly. So, I think it's the same as meeting people in general who are AS. You either go together or you don't and if you don't click, then it's difficult and if you do click, it's not so much.

I know others who no doubt have AS/HFA and I have got along very well with them with one exception my evil little grandmother and that is because she's a racist. I actually prefer to be friends with people at least on the spectrum. Because I need lots of time alone I cannot tolerate anyone who is too needy and demanding.

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My four closest friends are NTs with strong subclinical AS traits. I HIGHLY doubt that's a coincidence. On the other hand, my dad and brother are either AS or close to it, and we can really get on each other's nerves. I also have one Dx'ed AS friend who is probably slightly lower on the spectrum than I am, and she is really fun to hang around and talk to. Her special interest is cooking, and she is in the culinary arts program at the community college I graduated from. Dinner at her house is absolutely heavenly!

Thanks for the enlightenment. Your answers for some reason don't seem all that surprising, as I had a feeling that what the other person's special interests were would come into play.

My best friend is an Aspie, it's been a really awesome and interesting relationship.

I'm sorry. I didn't know I was being rude.

My boyfriend has AS, and though I do know all people are different, on the spectrum or not, I will say that upon meeting him there was an instant connection.
I don't have to fake anything with him, and I don't have to put the usual amounts of pain staking effort into interacting. I don't have to worry about him not understanding why I do the things I do, and I can understand him. For once I have a boyfriend who doesn't confuse the heck out of me! His responses and opinions are all very logical and I never worry that he'll react badly to something I do or say.
We both have similar interests (science and politics, as well as smaller things like video games and movies), but we're different enough that there's no competition (he likes chemistry, I like biology).
It's really very interesting to be around someone who thinks in such a similar way to me...

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I've met another aspie before but he didn't know I was an aspie. We didn't have much conversations, we just talked about general stuff. I noticed that he can go on and on about some topic but he didn't talk much in a group setting.

The only other person I know on the spectrum is a younger cousin of mine, whose traits are more pronounced than my own, and we get on well enough. Talking with him is occasionally difficult and he does often say things that would rub me the wrong way coming from any other person, but I'm happy to let them slide and make the effort to be patient. I might be one of the few people who can relate to his difficulties in life, so I try to remain a friend, even though we're living in different countries now.

I'm kind of curious to see what it'd be like to meet a girl with Aspergers, how much we might relate, whether we'd get on well or not, and so on.

I've recently become friends with someone who is also Asperger's. We usually hang out every once in awhile, go out and eat lunch. He talks a bit more than I do, but it works because we have similar interests. Of course there's the awkwardness because sometimes he'll go really quiet, I'll go really quiet, not know what to say or how to relate to something he is talking about. And there's the lack of eye contact, we usually just look towards each other for a short second, look away. It's strange, but it usually works out okay. I can talk to him much better than I can with anyone else, because he knows what I'm going through both as far as the Aspergers goes and as far as other personal issues as well.

I worked at Tech Support myself with no doubt a whole lot of other people with AS/HFA. Most of us weren't rude. We were randomly recorded and evaluated on regular basis. I did have to get rather stern one time with a man who decided he was going to get stoned while I attempted to help him fix his problem over the phone. I could hear what he was doing as his comprehension diminished. He ended up apologising for calling while he was getting high and agreed to call back at another time when he wasn't. I imagine it depends on the company/corporation you call. Things have change a great deal since I did that and now that corp. has out-sourced our jobs to Indians in India.

I find that interacting with another Aspie can go either one of two ways:
1. If the Aspie is like I am, someone who has intense special interests and enjoys giving monologues about said SIs, then I get along really well with them. I feel like they "get" my quirkiness. There's a definite connection that I don't find when I talk to most neurotypicals. I have several good friends who are these Aspies.
2. If the Aspie is shy/quiet/doesn't talk much, the interaction fails miserably for me. I don't deal well when I'm having a conversation and others don't have anything to say/contribute.
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Oh yeah THIS

Me and my guy have a mix of both... He's HFA, I'm AS. When I have been with other AS as friends, we've gotten along pretty well, silent at times, but not a lot of differences unless a discussion got heated, when I dated a few AS guys, pretty much things didn't go well... but such is life.

well i;ve never knowingly met someone with the same condition as me, sorta refused to go to group stuff, or research programs to spite them damn doctors, but people who are socially strange or get bullied more than me, i actually found secondary school suprisingly easy going, maybe i was lucky with my classmates, i usually find them irritating, i;m very self conscious and nervy mind, so someone who is likely to get us bad attention is someone i am nervy around