Are aspies often unable to say NO to people?

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I don't have a hard time saying it. For me sometimes I just don't like going out as much. I wish I could bulid that up more but it's just who I am.

Saying yes is easy... and usually there is nothing inherently wrong with it. People with AS usually have issues with knowing when you say no. If you can find the proper balance, everything should be alright.

I used to feel bad about saying "No" to other people, but now I don't care. I won't be taken advantage of.

I answer questions and make responses so automatically or not at all, and when I do, "Yeah" is the automatic answer that comes out. So I often say "yeah" when I mean no. It's frustrated a few minutes later when the meaning of what they said actually registers and I realized I've said the wrong thing. But by then it's too late to change my response. Drives me nuts.

I don't have a problem saying no. I also don't really have people around me trying to take advantage of me, but I don't have a problem with it.

but horses say nay

I used to have trouble saying no to people but now not so much

I still feel bad about it sometimes.

I say no to people all the time. Especially people I don't know knocking on my door asking to come in or if I can buy their stuff. NO

Giving a "no" answer implies an absolute, and only a Sith deals in absolutes.

I know what I must do.


Kidding, though it is funny that the "only a Sith" part, is itself an absolute.

I can say no, if I am confident about it, otherwise I tend to launch into an explanation of the answer, rather than quip a "yes" or "no", to make sure everything is properly represented.

i used to always say yes, 'cause i always was a people-pleaser. after a while i got tired of being taken advantage of so i slowly started saying "no, ah sorry..sorry" you might feel slightly guilty at first, but then it is just damn fun to be able to say no and project your true opinion..maybe even explain why you said no..but don't feel so sorry for saying no. don't say yes and do something where you will have to go out of your way and stress out to get it done. now ive gotten to the "no, i will be really busy then. but maybe another time"? or "no it wouldn't be right" etc.

often I won't do things, or communicate with people. I think they should take that as a no. Sometimes this is to the extent of breaking down and becoming completely dysfunctional.

usually I avoid situations where I may be asked to do something I don't want to.

Often I give a more vague than affirmative answer, or ask them why they would ask or have me do such a thing.

I have done things in the past (which have hopefully passed the limit of statutes), in attempt to get people to like me more, because I thought if I do what they ask me to they will like me. This usually ended up in them seeing me as a pushover. Not too long after that I decided I shouldn't leave the house and didn't for many many years.I predominantly found others intolerable, but I was generally quite lonely, I found great pleasure in my own, hassle free company studding and experimenting with the things that I enjoyed, and using that for companionship. I found my own thoughts and ideas and the way that they could be explored and developed, the understanding of logic and the things that could be accomplished with it far greater and better company that the people around me, or the people I had meat in my life.

Around 10 years ago I was somewhat forced into 'normal' (if you would call it that) society, I have coped as best I can and made many strong friends, though more over the past 6-7 years I have become somewhat more of a recluse again.

i only have trouble saying "no" when i have a blocked nose.

No. If I flat out don't want to do something there is no way anyone is going to get me to do it. I've given salesmen at the man the middle finger when they wouldn't back off. It usualy sends the message.

It is difficult for me say no but I guess I´m getting better. I can be very influenced by other people and be persuaded by them. I remember that when I was a kid and I was playing Star Wars Customizable Card Game at a convention an adult persuaded me to trade some cards with him that I didn´t wanted. Also the other day I was eating hot dogs with a friend and a kid selling stuff came to reach us and my friend said "I got no money it was him that paid for me" (pointing to me)... but he was lying!! !