Do aspies love independent living?

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I haven't lived independently yet, but I'm hoping that I like it when I move out this fall.

I don't think I can handle independent living at all. I have some mental & physical conditions besides AS that are really limiting me. My parents went out of state on vacation for a week(came back last Sunday) & I had fun while they wer gone; being able to lower the AC to what I want, leaving lights on, going in & out of kitchen without anyone around ect but I'm glad they are back. I'm not going to say I got lonely cuz I hung out with a friend one day & talked to people online ect but I did not know what to do with myself. I hate making big decisions & doing a lot of thinking for myself; maybe some of it is OCD & also an entire life of being told I'm not doing things "rite" cuz of AS & other issues that people never understood caused me to have no confidence in my self judgment. One of the rezones I really want/need a relationship is because I function much better when I have someone around who I can go over details with; then I can make decisions fairly well but if she wants to make all the decisions that would be fine to but I'll ask lots of questions about it. I can get so overwhelmed by details that I cant do things. Lots of people have told me that if I didn't have any disabilkities; I would probably do well in the military cuz I'd be told what to do. Does this makes sense to anyone

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I only wish I could live independently. I did for ten years though I was not ENTIRELY
financially independent.

While my life wasn't even remotely close to ideal during those ten years, my living
arrangements were alot more tolerable and tranquil than my current ones.

I'm not financially independent; and I can't do everything for myself; but I can live on my own without anybody having to come to my apartment and help me do anything.

During the time I had roommates at college, my anxiety level went through the roof, and eventually that triggered a major depressive episode (it didn't help that I was being asked to live independently and wasn't ready yet, being about five to ten years behind my peers in adaptive skills). I finally moved into my own place at the age of 24, and struggled for a little while on the finer points of bills and shopping until I got the hang of it. By 25, I had a driver's license and was about as competent with daily-living skills as the average 16-year-old.

I still need help when there are unusual situations, especially new things I haven't done before; but those are getting further in between as I learn to do more things. If things keep going the way they are, I'll probably learn enough to be completely independent by the age of 30.

I currently live with my parents but I will be living independently next year at school and I can't wait, i love living alone because it gives me control of everything and I don't have to worry about other people

Give me liberty or give me death.

nick 007 wrote

It makes perfect sense to me. For example, I would always make poor
decisions when I lived on my own when it came to grocery shopping.
I would just buy whatever and never did any comparison shopping,
never looked at coupons and specials at the various stores, etc......

I can't be bothered with those kind of details...it's all too tedious for
me and my brain just shuts down when I try to think about stuff like
that. I'll never understand how people can spend a considerable
amount of time on all this mundane crap involved in daily living.

I wouldn't be able to maintain a household anyway. My visual-spatial and
motor skills are so bad that i'm lucky I can screw in a lightbulb correctly. My
executive functioning isn't much better either.

I can't say i'd enjoy being a homeowner anyway. I utterly despise this
mind-numbing home and garden subculture in modern suburban
America.

I see nothing enjoyable about spending every weekend at
Lowe's and engaging in one tiresome home/garden project
after another.The American bourgeois can keep that aspect
of their lives.... i'll take the rest.

I'm ambivalent to independent living. I'm good at it and I take pride in not needing anybody to manage my life for me, but it's way too lonely so I can't be happy that way. I find living with people can be a huge strain but it's probably a price worth paying.