Is bordem more common in those with Aspergers/ASD than NTs?

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22 Jun 2010, 3:45 pm

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22 Jun 2010, 4:55 pm

I am often, always extremely bored. I crave company, drama, entertainment. I am happy only when I am reading but I cant read all day long. I am insanely bored while working, unless it is work I find interesting. I do enjoy going out for drives though, and going out in general where there is stuff happening, and if there is photogenic stuff going on... I also like to see the animals grazing while I am out driving, they are often doing something entertaining....

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22 Jun 2010, 5:04 pm

I once started a thread asking if anyone else ever gets bored, because I'm not sure if I've ever felt that particular emotion. Once anything that would be akin to the feeling of boredom creeps in my mind goes on autopilot to the world inside my head. There's always something interesting to think about, even if I can't move physically, ie; waiting at a dr. office.

I can, and do, however feel restless. The difference, to me, is that restless twinge of anxiety added, where bored doesn't.

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22 Jun 2010, 5:07 pm

I wouldn't be surprised. Boredom is linked to inattention, and the two link to depression. I read some science on it, and I noticed it in myself. I suffered very badly from boredom. A good cure is meditation.

I lost the source, but here's some stuff I quoted on my blog a long time ago that had meaning for me, before I self diagnosed as AS.

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"In one classic 1989 experiment, psychologists James Laird and Robin Damrad-Frye of Clark University discovered that very low level distraction such as a quiet television turned on in the next room led participants to describe a listening comprehension task as “boring.” Unaware of what was distracting them, the subjects could find no other explanation for their inattention. But when the TV was blaring, the subjects instead commented that the sound made it impossible to focus. Without any distraction, some students actually said that what they had heard in the comprehension exercise was stimulating. The results thus support the authors’ hypothesis that “the essential behavioral component of boredom is the struggle to maintain attention.”

Can you imagine an aspie/ADHD head trying to focus with a TV blaring in the background? Jees, drives me insane.

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"A chronic inability to focus on activities may render them effectively meaningless, the researchers surmise. “Attention is the common link between lack of meaning, depression and boredom.”

"People who are predisposed to boredom are more likely to suffer from ills such as depression and drug addiction; they also tend to be socially awkward and poor performers at school or work."

Bingo.

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22 Jun 2010, 8:07 pm

I don't know about other people, but I get lonely, rather than bored. Don't get me wrong, I like having a boyfriend, but when he's not around, I don't have any friends to talk to. I talk to my family, my classmates, and the people I volunteer with (I volunteer at a local hospital), but it's not the same thing. I see my family all the time, and I don't have anything in common with my classmates or the other volunteers, since they are either younger or older than me. I love my family, and I like talking to my classmates, and the people I volunteer with, but like I said, it's not the same thing. Sometimes, I get bored, though. I get tired of studying, and I live in a city where there's not much to do. But more often than not, I get lonely.
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22 Jun 2010, 8:28 pm

i don't really get bored (although all my life people have frequently told me i looked bored) unless maybe stuck listening to someone talk that doesn't have anything interesting to say (ok, i'm sure i was bored the few times i was forced to go to church).

but alone, virtually never.

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22 Jun 2010, 8:44 pm

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I can get bored if I'm with other people or if there's something tedious that I have to do. I rarely get bored if I'm alone and left to my own devices. I can always come up with something to do or just listen to music while being in my own little fantasy world.

This. Sort of. ish.

Never bored when alone. Often bored with other people in the 30 minutes or so before social exhaustion sets in and I begin to hatch escape plans. Repetitive tasks don't bore me as long as I'm left alone when doing them.

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23 Jun 2010, 4:38 am

CockneyRebel wrote:

I rarely ever get bored.

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I can get lost in my own thoughts and flap my hands, that's entertainment enough for me. NTs, on the other hand, always seem to need some sort of interaction to keep them from getting bored.

In fact my NT mum often wonders how I don't get bored sitting at home all the time, but if anything going out shopping or whatever it is NTs my age do is one of few things that would bore me :roll:

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23 Jun 2010, 9:01 am

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NTs, on the other hand, always seem to need some sort of interaction to keep them from getting bored.

I've noticed that in online chats "I'm bored" means "I'm horny and want to hook up."

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23 Jun 2010, 9:11 am

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I am never bored because I don't find just sitting and thinking to be boring. I am the center of my own private universe after all.

That's pretty much the way I am - like I've got my own private entertainment centre in my head. But sometimes I drop below the boredom threshold, like when I'm at work or when I can't be arsed to look for anything interesting to do, and then I feel like a caged animal........I don't easily recognise the boredom itself as it's happening but I know I have a lot of trouble with the feeling.

Best cure is to raise the stakes, try something that's a little more ambitious than usual, with a risk of failure attached. Or find out why the stuff I'm already doing has stopped developing.....sometimes my special interests get bogged down and I need to take a fresh look at them.

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23 Jun 2010, 12:50 pm

I tend to get bored once I've burned myself out on an interest and have to move onto something else (knowing what to move onto is/can be an issue). For instance, I played Dragon Age for several weeks and before having a chance to finish it, burned out and went for Dawn of War II . . . now I'm at Neverwinter Nights.

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23 Jun 2010, 1:03 pm

My AS son claims to be bored ALL the time, but I've learned that what it means is really, "there is something I want to do but I can't do it at the moment and because I can't do it and there is nothing different I want to do I'm bored." It's the lock onto the one idea of what he wants to do that freezes him. Wanting to play a rpg when no one is available to play with him, or wanting to test out an invention idea when he doesn't have the right materials (and doesn't think he could find them to buy them). Stuff like that.

I think it is easier for NT to just go with the flow and select something else that is actually currently available.

As my son gets older and has assembled more of his own resources hopefully the number of situations in which it happens will go down.

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23 Jun 2010, 1:11 pm

MathGirl wrote:

I rarely get bored, especially when I'm by myself. The only time I feel bored is when someone keeps talking about something that isn't part of my special interest.

Same here.

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23 Jun 2010, 1:18 pm

I only get bored when there are other people around.
Alone, never bored, I can slip into a reverie, think about the things that I want to think about, and philosophize as much as I could want. What more could one ask for in this world?

When others are around, I find myself constantly looking for ways to entertain them and/or myself. After a time, if there isn't anything "real" going on, I do get quite bored, start pacing. And if the "real" thing going on isn't something I know a bit about and/or enjoy... I can deal with it and participate for a while, but then I start to get REALLY bored.

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23 Jun 2010, 1:33 pm

DW_a_mom wrote:

This is exactly what I was trying to explain in my post by calling it restless. Yes, the incidences should go down as your son ages, because as an adult he'll have more control over his environment, as well as more options that might better suit his own likes. At least for me that feeling has lessened due to being free to fashion a lifestyle that encompasses my tastes. My son claims to be bored all of the time, too, but I've noticed his proclamation of boredom usually follows a request that was denied.

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23 Jun 2010, 4:50 pm

I always seem bored, even when I am busy. I wish I knew what caused this. After awhile, I also am bored by the things that interest me.

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