Update and advice regarding Inventor Aspie Spouse

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i just skimmed this quickly - barely - so sorry if i am repeating or not really offering anything.

but aspies are very logical. if he can't wrap himself around a logical concept he must be overwhelmed by frustration about it. that's what i would think. come back after the meltdown (or better, take this aspect off his hands until other things don't overwhelm him). he can't think. there are too many things going on.

or he has very strict rules about approaching it a different way for some reason, and you might want to investigate the reason.

or maybe he just plain can't do 70 hrs a week.

Thank you so much for your thoughts.

I will give you a little background. He built himself up from nothing in a poor eastern european country. He built up a huge factory from cash he saved working in the field. He invented a huge breakthough in a common piece of factory equipment that is used today. He is a world frontrunner in the field. Being in a corrupt 3rd world country, he did not shmooze correctly with the guys who extort "protection" money from cash-rich businesses (mafia). He was shot, his best friend killed, when he didn't cave to demands and bribe the right people---this is covered in major news outlets, so it is verfied. he sent those bastards to prison---also verified.

He fled to the US. His thieving partners stole money from the factory afterwards and laid off 300 people. So he lost a lifetime's work because he was an Aspie and couldn't play the game---he couldn't detect sociopathic behavior.

His wife stayed with him until ran out of money. Total b***h. Again, this is verified and not heresay.


He opened a home decor store ---with a super clever pier one imports/european theme here in a very major metropolis---during the housing boom---he made out like a bandit because it was so different. Well, the housing bust gained steam in 2007 and business slowed 40%---he was smart and got out. He met me---he was exhausted and I took him in to rest for a few months.

He had a TON of cool inventory. In 2008, we opened a Christmas store---and worked 7 days a week for 4 months. We did OK---but since I was in charge---it was going to be different in 2009.

2009---we opened a christmas store with still a ton of inventory---and despite very low prices and discounted rents---we lost money---there were 7 days in december with zero sales---and this was in a mall---I KNEW the economy crashed. He was a complete ass during that time---he felt like a failure because a MODEL THAT WAS WILDLY SUCCESSFUL had crashed. I stonewalled any new projects related with this money losing sector and took the brunt of his crappiness. He was such an ass. He hated dealing with the public,.

So, NOW with the economy taking even more---he is talking about a store this christmas---NO WAY. Meanwhile, another part of our business related to a cutting edge invention he designed has exploded---providing very good money.

So we have this beautiful crap in storage, paying good money just storing it---and it's costing us dearly---and it's a money LOSER. He is an complete illogical baboon---ignoring IRS loses from this sector.

He has aspie John Wayne versions of panic attacks, he is so scared of poverty, not having control. But his being a baboon and me having to stop stupid impulsive descions is wearing me down. He is arrogant when he is wrong, and insulting, and a jackass---so I cannot reason with him during these meltdowns.

Like I said, I will stone wall---and I will remove money supporting this money loser.