Worrying and Relationships

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It is good to review the situation in your mind...it means you are a concerned person...you don't wish to offend.
However, once you have established that you were not the person at fault or that there was no miscommunication...you know who was. It is not your guilt...but theirs.
Should they not reply to you...you will have rid someone from your life that shouldn't have been there in the first place (IMNSHO ).
To worry about something, not of your doing, is an unnecessary drain on you. Many people who claim offense have no right to feel offended in the first place. Just because someone claims to have been offended doesn't mean they truly were. Certain people go around in life trying to get people to owe them (repay them / owe them allegiance over an imagined offense)...some out of power...some are bullies, trying to use societal rules as a club...many out of stupidity. They lack imagination and critical thinking, and so, think all others do.

This is what I do:

1) Determine guilty party
2) If I am guilty...I apologize and make it up with interest.
3) If they were wrong...I would expect the same in return as I would have done.
4) Should they not reply or apologize...I would knock them down a notch or two (or off) on my hierarchy of relationships mental checklist.

What you don't wish to do is grovel....it makes you an emotional slave to them / A pitiful person in your own eyes ( a desired objective to some ).
For many who choose to not do for themselves in life, choose to operate through sabotage in any way they can. In their minds, they seek to bring others down so as to not appear so low in reference to them.

Look for your passions in life...pursue them. The ones you meet on that journey will have similar passions. You will be doubly blessed in life as you will be doing what you love doing, and you will be doing it with those whom are of like minds. In them you will find true friendship. This is my opinion...borne of experience.

It happens to me all the time-though when I contacted the psychiatrist to get my self diagnosed and called her voicemail-I heard nothing for a week-then I called again and left a message-she called back 3 days later and got my voice mail and said that she was sorry for not calling me back sooner but she just kind of forgot to call me--boy I am so glad I wasnt suicidal or something-she would have called back and my next of kin would answer the phone and tell her I offed myself-wonder how she would feel-probably nothing-I have to say I am the same way-there is a fellow who posts here on WP hat I recently have been IM'ing with and I say I am sorry about something and he tells me to stop apologizing so much but its my nature and unfortunately hard to stop doing.

There is no excuse for your therapist not getting back to you right away. Remember...a person's actions really tell of their original intent. Get a better therapist.