Does being touched when you don't want it upset you?

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People who think its acceptable to just run up and touch or hug someone they barely know are such jackasses. I think it should be perfectly legal to punch them in the face, or strike them with a blunt object in self-defense - who knows what kind of biological threat they may be carrying?

Besides, hugs are not a social greeting - they're a sexual overture.

I dislike having most people touch me without warning, even my family. If I know it's coming it's usually ok, but if someone touches me suddenly it bothers me, and I'll move away from them and be like "Why are you touching me?"

I hate when anybody hugs me. Only trusted people can do it and not suddenly.

It doesn't ruin my whole day, but it does unnerve me. Light touch is what bothers me especially, but other kinds can too. I just tell people I'm hypersensitive to touch (which I am) but they find that cool and want to 'test it out'

It depends. While I'm funny with being intimate with people I hardly know, I am wiling to hug and be hugged by people I do know. I used to especially hate being touched as a child, and I'd actually throw my father's arm off my shoulder when he'd put it on me.

Yes it does. My grandma does this a lot when she wants me to move. She tries to physically move me out of the way by grabbing onto the sides of me and it's extremely uncomfortable. I've told her several times to just ask me to move but she never does!

Being touched when I don't want it or expect it is very unnerving. But not being touched when I do want it and need it is far worse...

Aren't I clever?

It irritates me.

For me it doesn't matter if it's someone I know or don't know, if they tell me they're going to do so or not. I can't stand shaking hands or even touching when I'm walking/seated let alone being touched so completely by another person. I will allow particular people to hug me (I'm not going to hug back) but only very specific people (pretty much my mother alone) and only if they tell me in advance. A friend of mine was in the elevator with me and touched the back of my head. I freaked out, flailing and pretty much threw myself to the other side of the elevator. She laughed as though it were a joke...

I will, to be honest, not say something about hugging or touching people even though it bothers me, on some occasions. My mothers boyfriend hugs me for instance and it irritates me a lot. But, I don't know if it would be appropriate or not to tell him so. When I'm in a social gathering and there's the possibility of having to shake hands, I always make sure both of my hands are filled so I have the excuse. If I don't have something in my hands I tend to make up some other excuse.

not particularly upset but it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. goodbye hugs arent so bad because i know alot of people expect that and can prepare myself (lol) but if its just random i get a tad tense. yesterday at work a man i dont know wanted to get my attention but instead of tapping my shoulder or calling like a normal person would he tapped my butt! wtf, not cool

Generally Yes. It depends who and how. My issues are more proximity and motion than the touch itself. It is distracting and that feeling of pressure takes up all my attention diverting attention away from work, socializing or the general environment. My mind will start saying, "my arm, my arm, someone is touching my arm" and anything they may be saying is completely lost. If anything it's the invasion of personal space and the crossing of boundaries.

My attention will often hyper-focus on every movement that happens in the surrounding space; if someone scratches their nose my body will turn towards it, if someone coughs my attention is diverted, every motion and sound... The more the environment falls away and I focus on a subject, work etc, rather than the people in the space, the more any touch becomes startling.

It also depends who it is. Friends and family get passes most of the time, sometimes its OK, sometimes even enjoyable, other times its just grinning-and-bearing, but strangers just need to stop being all touchy feely. When a stranger is all touchy it feels wrong, like they are power tripping, and often puts me in a fight-mode making me hostile.

Other times I just don't get the point. Someone put their arm around me the other day and it completely confused me. Why would they do that? They do not know me, we've talked once. Clearly they are comfortable, are they testing to see if I am as well? It's baffling. This was particularly baffling as they are AS and I am pretty sure had assumed I was as well.

I like when my mom touches me.

When I went to basic training we took an airplane to Atlanta airport the guy who was sitting next to me had his hairy arm right on top of my arm rest. I had my arm off the seat arm but he saw that I moved away from his arm so he delibertly tried to touch my arm so I started talking s**t to him telling him to move over all it did was make him laugh harder. The stewardess saw he was messing with me she asked for him to stop. Before he could say no some big guy came up and asked me if wanted to trade seats so I did. When I walked away I heard the big guy ask the touchy feely guy "do you want to touch my arm a**hole?" Sometimes life is good to me.

Maybe not the rest of the day, but it does for quite a bit.