In a Relationship?

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I have been married for over a year now.

Single and feeling lonely.

Single and sort of conflicted. Conflict implies some sort of desire, so I went with "I want to be in a relationship".
"I want to be in a relationship in a year or two" would be my ideal answer.

Currently single.Would like to have a girlfriend more in present time than in the past.

hmmm, how many have you been in?

Single, would like to be in a relationship provided the right person comes along, which does seem highly unlikely at the moment.

Being brutally honest relationships have their ups & down and yes, that's life.Honestly, I'd like to be in a relationship but, deep down inside I feel I've screwed up so many times there is nothing left for me.No! I'm not being cynical nor pessimistic just when you get to the heart of the matter I'm uncertain of how well I'd do relationship seeing the last one I was in happened 10yrs ago and I've not dated since that time still, I have a hopeful heart!

I started dating my best guy friend.

I have been in a string of relationships since I was 15. My first relationship lasted for 6 years and I have seldom been single for more than a couple of months before my next relationship came along. Males seem to like me because I am odd and also I play music. Pretty much everyone who has ever pursued a relationship with me has done so for that reason...mainly the music...My first boyfriend was the guitar player in the band I joined...It was not a very good relationship. It was very oppressive, but I learned a lot of stuff from it, I guess....It also set me up for the pattern of always being in relationships.

The point of relationships for me is friendship. I have difficulty getting along with other females but I do desire some form of comradeship...and relationships to me are like close friendships with low boundaries...
I have been with my ASish friend for two years...we get along because we were friends for years before we started dating, and also we are wired similarly and understand each other very well.
There was an overlap of about a year and a half where I was dating him plus my business partner/boyfriend of 7 years....but though I still live with him, we are platonic and I have my own room and he is having a kid with his much-younger girlfriend..I can't have children and don't want to...My ASish friend now helps run our shop that just opened and is also in our band..


Anywhoo....
How you say...
I know this all makes me sound very non-spectrumy...but it is just the way I happen to be...

I am divorced after being married for about 11 years. I married him because he was my boyfriend and had to leave the country when his tourist visa expired. I had another live-in relationship when I lived in Germany and had nowhere to stay... moved in with a guy with a house.

Now I feel as if the kindest, funniest, most responsible guy in the world is just not worth the EFFORT! And I'm very grateful to my ex-husband for curing me of the feeling that I'm missing out on something by being single.... I'm not!

I don't know what additional wording to add to this thread except some people thought, that I was not capable of holding down a relationship but, I proved them wrong even if that was many years ago.Still, I simply due my best these days to get aloing with people whether it leads to a relationship or not...

I'm dating, hope to be engaged soon

I'm a playa.

Life's a beach?

I'd like to be in one, but I'm not sure how I'd handle it due to my silent, aloof nature.

i read once (i think it was in an article written by a married couple of marriage therapists) that marriages that work are generally comprised of partners who have the same "childhood wound" but opposite coping mechanisms. sub "Asperger's" for "childhood wound" and you seem to back up their assertions.



^ that

would like to be in a relationship, but too confused about how / who / why . if anything like previous attempts, i would rather never again.