Sibblings or lose family out growing you?

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i'm the youngest of my brothers....used to do everything with my brother until he joined the military, I can see us drifting apart in alot of ways and where he likes to go into the city I like to go into the woods, or some other secluded place. However he's still my best friend and we can always sit down and watch cartoons, or share a laugh.

my oldest brother, I used to be total enemies with him but as he has grown older he has grown to accept me alot more and I him.

regardless of your current status with your siblings my advice would be to keep the dialogue going when possible and just enjoy the simple things you can with them. You only get one family and though I hate mine at times I would hate for us to drift entirely apart to where there was zero connection.

I had a dream with said friend in it last night. I was mad at her for some reason and said I don't care she can go to hell!! ! I walked out the door to the front yard and family/friends were playing catch. I said I'm going for a walk and went down to tie my shoes at the end of the driveway. The friend said what's wrong and she said you feel I've outgrown you I said yes I cryed in to her shoulder (I then just now woke up in tears!! !) AWFUL DREAM!! ! Damn Subconscious LOL!

I sort of feel this way, but in the end I find my younger siblings (17 and 15) to not necessarily be more mature for their social interests. The fact that he goes to parties, dates and drinks doesn't mean he's more advanced than me, but merely means that he follows the social conventions. He's very much a 'follower' and has to like/do whatever is popular at the time. That said, just because he's doing those things and I'm still interested in what I was years ago doesn't mean that he's more advanced than me. For instance, I do have friends (I distance myself from them a LOT) and I am much more intelligent than he is as has been proven by testing, but

I do feel like sometimes it looks like he outgrew me in a sense -- I have NO sexual interest and he's been dating a ton of people all through high school. I don't have a license and he owns a car. I NEVER went to a single party in HS and he throws parties. The thing is, I feel as though these examples are based on social perception of what is and is not mature. My acting in accords to what is comfortable to me and what my interests are does not mean that

The thing is, I was never interested in toys or such even as a child. I spent hours with my books, microscope and chem set. I just have never moved past those type of things -- solitary intellectual pursuits seem to be more my style.


Yes the capacity to follow social conventions is deemed more advanced, but I'd argue that in a sense it's less. (by this I don't mean general social interaction but more basing your interests and actions off of what others define as the norm)

My brother who I spent a lot of time with does not come around anymore I have not seen him since 2005 when I was in the hospital for congestive heart failure. Since then I lost contact with him.