Whitaker wrote:
Lotusman,
No you don't need to apologize one bit about being blunt you had great input. Maybe I'm just a crappy person like you hint (only caring about myself), though the fact I do worry about many people and care about their well being maybe its not total self absorbedness. I think I've come across as self absorbed not only because of the conflict of statements as you said, but the length of my posting.
I don't think you're a crappy person btw - just that someone who didn't know you well might receive that impression from what you say. I think the fact that you're honest enough with yourself to open up about all this shows an admirable degree of self-awareness that most people don't have. I suspect that you're probably being unduly harsh with that self-description. Perhaps you're no more selfish than most people but you don't realise that fact?
I should add that I also hadn't been in a serious relationship until my mid-20s, but once I found the right person I suprised myself by discovering that I did have it in me to care about other people, and to function at least to a partial extent among NTs. I just needed a supportive and broad-minded person to bring out that side of me.This may well happen to you too.
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11 Aug 2010, 4:44 pm
