Isn't it 100% selfish of my parents to expect me to keep....

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I believe your life is yours to do with as you as you wish. I think in many cases, depression and suicide are very rational, maybe even hyper-rational. But often along with the depression can come a loss of perspective. It doesn't sound like you really want to die, just that you don't know what to do if you run out of options.

You should ask yourself, and really think about what you want. I don't believe it's as simple as just a career. It may be money, pursuing your interests, or a dozen other things. Explore all your options thoroughly, because you deserve it. Anyone introspective enough to think of killing themselves deserves it.

Oh, and as for your parents, they're not being selfish, it's just love. They want to avoid pain just as much as you do.

Its a selfish act alright, but I've been there many times. When you get so low its very hard to come up.
I do understand. I think some suicides are more selfish than others, depending on the situation.

1. Taking morphine isn't the same as killing yourself


2. It's not selfish. I'm not talking from the family member's point of view. It's selfish from HIS point of view. Even if the family members have some selfish motives, it's ultimately his and his only selfish decision to kill himself.

I hope you find something that makes you happy.

Me too.

Good luck and best wishes.

But isn't that beside the point? If you're suicidal enough, you stop remembering other peoples' reactions, and "it's selfish" just isn't enough of a bar anymore. Especially if, unlike NTs, you don't form strongly emotional relationships with others. (I don't know about others, but my relationships tend to be mostly intellectual.) Yes, of course it's selfish; look at the ethics of it, and it's plain.

But a person can't constantly do what he does because other people want him to do it. Drifting along, bending to other people's wishes all the time, no goals and plans of your own--that's a recipe for feeling useless, powerless, and eventually just plain worthless. You have to have your own goals. You have to have something useful to do, something to work toward. If you don't, then you will start feeling suicidal.

Your parents don't want you to kill yourself because they love you and can't imagine the pain of their child dying.

Keep in mind that some people are suicidal because no one loves them or gives a crap they exist.

That is all.

It seems to me that all choices are selfish. Even the most seemingly selfless actions are done for the purpose of making oneself feel better in some way, and I don't think the decision to commit suicide is inherently more selfish than other decisions.

It's possible to commit suicide for the explicit purpose of hurting others, but it doesn't seem that such a decision would be a common one. It seems that suicide happens more frequently when a person is dealing with a very significant amount of emotional stress and so doesn't perceive any way to end their stress except for ending their relationship with the stressful situations.

It's extremely difficult to take into account others' possible responses when considering suicide and it seems incredibly narcissistic of people to expect that suicidal people should consider others' feelings above said suidical people's respective desires to end what they think will be infinite suffering.

Calling suicidal people selfish and trying to make them feel guilty/worse doesn't seem like a reliable way to convince them not to kill themselves. Giving them some hope about an end to suffering and a more enjoyable life seems like it would be more effective.