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03 Oct 2010, 11:45 pm

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I worked in a hospital for a while, and I think the two women I worked for may have known I have a disorder of some sort since they were entirely too understanding of my behavior. In fact, they treated me so much like a normal person I couldn't take it and quit.


Do you mean that they seemed to be patronizing?


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03 Oct 2010, 11:48 pm

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How some people have "gaydar", we should have "aspdar".


There are some threads on this topic, if you want to do a search.


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03 Oct 2010, 11:54 pm

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I worked in a hospital for a while, and I think the two women I worked for may have known I have a disorder of some sort since they were entirely too understanding of my behavior. In fact, they treated me so much like a normal person I couldn't take it and quit.


Do you mean that they seemed to be patronizing?


I thought she meant she couldn't take it because she wasn't used to being treated with respect and being treated right because her whole life she has always been treated like dirt. Then finally she met two ladies and they treated her right and she just wasn't used to it so she quit since she couldn't take it.



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03 Oct 2010, 11:54 pm

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Yes, but it was before I knew I might have it. I was insulted because at the time I didn't know much about AS and thought they were asking if I was stupid.


I know what you mean. At least these days it is easy to research anything on the web. I used to haunt libraries and use the card catalog to learn about things for fun. I was always curious (in more than one way :lol: )


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03 Oct 2010, 11:56 pm

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Only about three people have asked me. That was it.

I doubt people are actually going to ask if you have it or not because I think it be rude to ask because what if you didn't have it, then you might be insulted because someone thought you weren't "normal." Plus some people want to be normal so they be insulted if they got asked if they have an ASD because it would mean they failed at faking it. And this proves a point why people wouldn't ask:

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Yes, but it was before I knew I might have it. I was insulted because at the time I didn't know much about AS and thought they were asking if I was stupid.


Most people mention it indirectly and wait to see your response.


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03 Oct 2010, 11:59 pm

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I worked in a hospital for a while, and I think the two women I worked for may have known I have a disorder of some sort since they were entirely too understanding of my behavior. In fact, they treated me so much like a normal person I couldn't take it and quit.


Do you mean that they seemed to be patronizing?


I thought she meant she couldn't take it because she wasn't used to being treated with respect and being treated right because her whole life she has always been treated like dirt. Then finally she met two ladies and they treated her right and she just wasn't used to it so she quit since she couldn't take it.


What you say makes sense. Those on the spectrum usually don't like change, even if it is for the better.


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04 Oct 2010, 12:08 am

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Yes, but it was before I knew I might have it. I was insulted because at the time I didn't know much about AS and thought they were asking if I was stupid.


I know what you mean. At least these days it is easy to research anything on the web. I used to haunt libraries and use the card catalog to learn about things for fun. I was always curious (in more than one way :lol: )


I used to do the same thing. I would spend entire days in the library moving from section to section. When I was in elementary school, my primary focus was Entomology. The secondary focus was anything paranormal.

When it was suggested I might have AS the first time, I was still very sensitive from being called stupid by all my peers for being in special education classes.


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04 Oct 2010, 12:10 am

Rocky wrote:
League_Girl wrote:
Only about three people have asked me. That was it.

I doubt people are actually going to ask if you have it or not because I think it be rude to ask because what if you didn't have it, then you might be insulted because someone thought you weren't "normal." Plus some people want to be normal so they be insulted if they got asked if they have an ASD because it would mean they failed at faking it. And this proves a point why people wouldn't ask:

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Yes, but it was before I knew I might have it. I was insulted because at the time I didn't know much about AS and thought they were asking if I was stupid.


Most people mention it indirectly and wait to see your response.


*nod* I've been noticing that a lot more these days. Especially concerning my children. People will ask very pointed questions and depending on how I answer, they may or may not mention ASD.


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04 Oct 2010, 12:46 am

So what indirect things would they say?

"Are you right in the head?"

"Have you ever seen Rain Man?"



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04 Oct 2010, 12:49 am

League_Girl wrote:
So what indirect things would they say?

"Are you right in the head?"

"Have you ever seen Rain Man?"


Just today my husband had a friend over that asked if my son had a 'fixation'.


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04 Oct 2010, 8:07 am

League_Girl wrote:
I thought she meant she couldn't take it because she wasn't used to being treated with respect and being treated right because her whole life she has always been treated like dirt. Then finally she met two ladies and they treated her right and she just wasn't used to it so she quit since she couldn't take it.


When you put it that way, it doesn't sound like I have the highest self-esteem.

Note to self: You deserve to be treated with respect.



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04 Oct 2010, 8:39 am

I recently had a coworker ask me. I was doing some weird hopping thing while standing. He said it was just like some character on Boston Legal. I've never seen the show. I suspect that the character is a parody of real Asperger's.



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04 Oct 2010, 9:08 am

I have been compared to Rainman on the job they even called me RainDan. I did not like being touched and was good at some complex jobs but found some easy jobs hard. I have also been compared to Cliff Claven from Cheers because I know too much useless information and like to talk about it. We watched a program on some morning news show where they had kids with Autism on it and they were talking about what to watch for in your infants and kids. I mentioned I have some of those symptoms and they all laughed and said your shy and weird your not autistic. Thats not what the tests said though. :wink:


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04 Oct 2010, 9:55 am

Last Saturday a man (whom I've met some times before) said to me: "Your brain is running with 120 km an hour. Are you autistic or are you just very intelligent?" He didn't say it in a mean way. And I don't remember what I said to get this reaction, didn't think it was something special.
I told him that I was on the autistic spectrum, with Asperger.
We talked a bit, and then his wife came, and he said: "I'm just talking to an autistic". A bit odd.



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04 Oct 2010, 10:01 am

No, I have not.

I suspect it's not well-known around here. Outside the Internet, I mean.



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04 Oct 2010, 10:15 am

ya one of my teachers in high school, and then some lady at work who has a son on the spectrum. Didn't know what aspergers was back in high school though so just found it strange that my teacher would think I am autistic.


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