Do you get angry when someone falls or gets sick?

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i dont think i show to much of a caring attitude, my mom is always having helth problems now and has been in the hospital and i dont even visit her now when she goes

i havent even spoken to her in like 3 or 4 months

Why would I get angry? It's not like they decided to get sick or hurt so why would I be mad at them about it?

I can be angry about that it happened but I shouldn't be angry at the person. Sure if it was their fault they got sick or hurt because they were careless, then I see it as a reason to be angry about it. I've even gotten angry at myself for getting hurt because I did something stupid. I remember a kid took someone's crutches and he thought he could do something cool with them on the stairs to be funny and instead it didn't go well and he ended up breaking his leg. He ended up with crutches. I felt nothing for him because it was his fault. My aid said to another teacher "he wanted crutches, now he has them." I still find it funny when I think about it and sometimes people getting hurt is funny because of their stupidity. Yeah I'm evil. But I bet if I were the parent and my kid did that, I would be mad because I would have to use my time to take him to the hospital and be paying a medical bill for the visit and the cast when that incident could have been avoided.

I also remember getting upset when my husband's foot got very bad and he told me he might lose his job. I wasn't mad at him about it, I was mad about what may happen so it caused me stressed. But he got that taken care of by going to the doctor and he ended up with a cane to help his foot and now he has a brace and doesn't need to use a cane anymore.

I thought I was alone on this and I'm not sure why it happens.

For instance, if my dad isn't feeling well or trips, my first reaction is panic, and then immediately following that I feel an immense wave of anger. I keep it inside, because I know it's irrational and mean and would never take it out on the person, but I still feel it all the same. I want to yell at him to be more careful (of course I never would!), but that's the thought I have.
I think the anger could be a reaction to the sudden jolt of fear/worry. It also could be a result of a weird desire for the people you care about to be strong.
My mom was very sick for many years and I remember holding a lot of anger in about that as well.

Don't know if this counts, but I injured myself slipping on ice a few days ago (late-season snowstorm) and got angry at MYSELF for not being more careful...plus, now I'm out of work for a while.

nnno, i laugh, i think its hilarious when people fall down.

i'm have Emetophobia, so if someone gets sick and throws up i get extremely paranoid and go out of my way to avoid them.

other times i don't care if someone gets sick. as long as it doesn't involve or directly affect me i really don't give two flying f***s

I would get upset whenever my husband would have a seizure because he would be sent home from work and we lose money and he has almost lost his job several times. Then I was upset when he had one and feel and hurt his back and then was on sick leave. I was like this only because it affects me and puts stress on me and gives me anxiety so therefore his illness affects me because of less income and I do have money anxiety. I wasn't mad at him since it wasn't his fault and it's not like he chose to have one, I was just upset it happened because it would then affect me. I did think for a while I made a mistake of marrying him and picking him as a partner because I knew from the start about his condition but I didn't know it would put this much stress on me and put us in a tough spot where he wasn't getting better because of our kid he had to take care of. It was very scary so it made me wish I never married him. It was a temporary thing but it felt forever because he wasn't getting better until my parents had our son so he could get better and recover.

am always breaking out into laughter whenever people accidentaly hit themselves,stub a toe and swear, fall over or slip on dog sht, personaly find human reactions so alien.
its even funnier when the person who slips on sht or falls over gets up and tries to walk off like it never happened.

My psychiatrist/therapist has a heart condition, and although a couple of years ago he had a heart bypass, it was not very successful, and he had a minor heart attack in March. He's recovering now.
I was (still am) angry.....I think my anger hides my sadness and shock that his bypass operation unsuccessful and he got ill again....and fear that he could retire or die and then things would get much harder for me. I've had many different therapists, but this one is the only person I've ever trusted enough to be able to talk about the things that I need to talk to to get better. I don't think I could find another person I trust so much. I beat myself up sometimes because that sounds really selfish. But I can't help it. I wish I could make him well.

I do get angry, and I know its illogical and not very nice but I still get angry, only with my family that I live with I think with me there are 2 reasons for this

1. its a change from the norm, e.g. my mum is usually walking around the house doing things, gets up at a certain time, is in the living room with me, when she is ill she isn't so its disconcerting and I think in that case makes me anxious which induces anger.
2. I have a vomiting phobia and I automatically connect illness to something scary, so my anxiety about that causes me to fight or flight and I lash out at the thing causing the problem, which unfortunately happens to be the ill person

however even if I am angry about it I am able to stop myself from saying stuff most of the time. I just appear grumpy to everyone

Yes, I have this. I think it's a natural human reaction some people have. Feelings aren't always logical. We know there's no logic in being angry with someone for being hurt or unwell - they can't help it - but the feelings happen anyway!

When someone we know or love is vulnerable to an illness or injury we can feel a mixture of emotion towards them - fear, concern, sympathy and even anger.

Seeing someone all weak and pathetic who is usually strong can make us shocked by the change and we can feel angry at the person for changing. We may even feel as though they've abandoned us by becoming ill or hurt.

We know it's illogical, but feelings are different from thoughts. Sure, we think about how to care for the person who is hurt but we also feel angry at them for being in this situation. We are still caring people, but feelings are complex and they just happen! Feelings are always legitimate though, even when they don't represent the facts. It's real that we feel angry, but we know the fact is the person who is sick isn't to blame.

I don't have this particular issue, but I think I understand how it happens. When we feel something, we simply feel it. Our minds then classify that feeling as a particular emotion, and that classification seems to become the feeling. We create an identity between a physical feeling and a set of thoughts and reactions about it.

This happens to all sorts of feelings, but we can change the way we process them. I've used something called breathwork to learn to observe my feelings more carefully and closely, and this has helped me stay more true to the initial feelings without simplifying them into emotions so quickly. I can't explain it in just a few sentences, but it has helped me enjoy my life a lot more.

A lot of people practice different variations of this, but the best ones seem to have the simplest methods. Lying back and practicing circular breathing with someone to help you keep from holding your breath (which people do more than they'd ever suspect) while listening to a particular type of instrumental music (not a certain style or genre exactly, but after a while you know it when you hear it).

No, I'd feel like a jerk if I did that.

I've laughed at myself when that happens to me, also have been around people who laugh with me about it.....honestly I find that preferable to a ton of sympathy or whatever. I mean unless its like a very severe injury that is very serious then laughing probably isn't a very good reaction, like I wasn't laughing when I saw my brother after he fell quite a distance and was in very severe pain and needed an ambulance but that was pretty serious not like just tripping or or something to be taken more lightly.

My husband.

He goes insane when someone is ill.

It breaks up his rigid routine.
The how is going to affect "him"? He expect certain things to be done, now they won't be.
He has no clue what to do, so he shuts down.

My doctors think he is a total douche bag because of this behavior. They won't even bother talking to him about my health problems anymore. They strongly encourage me to let someone else havee say over my medical treatment, because he's been MIA during my various health crisis.

Usually the talk goes like this.

*Where's your husband?*
*Sleeping.*
*We can call him.*
*Don't bother. He won't answer the phone. It takes him 2 hours to get ready, and he'll never find the hospital even with a map. Just call my brother."

*What is he? An addict or a drunk? Why are you still married to this jackass...*

This is the only thing about my husband, I wish he would work on, handling a crisis. He shuts down to the level of a 5 year old. It wouldn't care, but he is legally responsible if I can't make decisions for myself.

So no, you aren't alone feeling that way.

No, I have never had that reaction if someone falls. Why would I?

I might feel angry about it if someone I care about gets seriously sick, but that's the "why does this happen to someone so good and not those who deserve it?" kind of anger.

I have gotten mad at my kids when they have been fighting or doing something stupid and someone gets hurt.

Thinking about it, yeah, I think I did get mad when people got hurt and it ruined a day. I wouldn't want to admit it out loud, and now I know I need to act a certain way, but deep down, its there.

Man does this stuff suck.

Ever wonder *if* you make it to Heaven, will you still be on the spectrum?