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Discovering a common interest to help break the ice is fine, faking an interest to suck up to someone is not, it will become transparent pretty fast. Having something in common is more than just liking the same thing, that's just the start, it's the interaction between that matters too.

I'm not sure...I'm pretty sure it would be creepy, but maybe it could be rephrased as, "Do you like X?" or something like that...

Yeah. I know someone who saw a video of a guy saying something online. (A guy who has echolalia and always says the same phrases.) And when she met him in person, he would say the start of the phrase and she would finish it for him based on what she saw online. This made him think that she understood him better than she does. I found that creepy because it seemed manipulative. Like she was allowing him to think she just intuitively knew this stuff when she didn't really. (And she had a habit of looking up people online and doing that kind of thing, and it did get really creepy in more than that occasion.)

in a way it is almost like stalking folks for social interaction, but if is on their fb page then that person is just as responsible. However, I think that gig would not work for very long cause:

it is hard to fake an interest in something unless you do alot of research which would be even more creepy; but most of the time folks see through that gig after a few conversations on that subject matter

people usually know what they have on their facebook acount and after a few times of doing this people will figure out what you are doing which will give you a nasty reputation as the company creep.

The best way to meet people via interests is when they are not busy, Share (lightly) what you are doing with some of your interests and ask them if they have any hobbies. Some people say, no I just work...then discuss their work with them.