I am a very loving and generous friend/lover/mother. I won't let anyone go without their basic needs. This means, I have been taken advantage of many many times and I am working on that. I have weeded my friend list down and refuse to be taken advantage of again. That was really hard on me because I have such few friends (down to only 3 people that I still talk to), but I think it was for the better. I have learned to concentrate on myself and my kids, and stop giving the little resources I had to those "fairweather" friends.