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23 Nov 2010, 6:10 pm

Speaking of greetings I hate it when I'm asked how I'm doing and I say, "alright" and they say, "just allllriiight?".
They don't even really want to know anway! I was already exagerating with "alright".

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23 Nov 2010, 6:11 pm

Duplicate.

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23 Nov 2010, 6:19 pm

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Personally I can't understand why we get so emotionally upset over things that don't really matter. For example, my blood starts to boil whenever someone insults one of my special interests, but I don't really know why I feel that way when most people would just shrug and say, "well, that's your opinion" and go on with their day.

oh, oh, I think I have a bad case of the NT's

- I know why people CAN do that, don't know why YOU do that though.

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23 Nov 2010, 6:45 pm

why we have such problems in bridging and maintaining relationships.

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23 Nov 2010, 6:52 pm

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Off topic, but what movie is your avatar from?

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23 Nov 2010, 7:07 pm

Alexithymia. I don't understand how it's possible to not know what you're feeling.

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23 Nov 2010, 7:08 pm

Aimless wrote:

IdahoRose wrote:

Off topic, but what movie is your avatar from?

Secret Window.

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23 Nov 2010, 7:14 pm

Aimless wrote:

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Why it seems so complicated and hard to just say "fine" when someone says " How are you?". True, it doesn't make sense but it's so much easier to just do it and go on your way.

I personally find that complicated because of the weird things NTs say instead of "how are you?" in order to "acknowledge" you. Like they say "alright" and I'm meant to say "alright" back then ask them how they are... The hell?

Yeah, that's odd when people do that. I had a boss once who always asked " What's the good word?" as a way of greeting people. I knew that but invariably found myself trying to think of a good word like lachrymose or flense.

In Australia the greeting that most confuses me is 'what's news?'

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23 Nov 2010, 7:27 pm

There is many things I don't understand, but I will name one, since I have mentioned in the other thread that I understand some people have the urge to tease a person they like (in a nice way of course, not to hurt feelings), I just Don't understand bullying.

I read the reasons behind it were that these people (bullies) were having difficulties at home and were then picking on other people they felt were different and/or weaker then them. I have the opposite reaction if I see someone who is having more difficulties then me, I tend to help, and I sure don't feel like picking on them. If someone picked on me at school or when I had difficulties at home, I didn't want to go pick on an innocent person.

I admit I always enjoy it when the bully gets his a** kicked in a movie.

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23 Nov 2010, 7:32 pm

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I don't kid around as a rule unless I'm absolutely sure the other person is in on the joke. Maybe because I have a long history of misinterpreting harmless joshing as malicious. I'm much better now, my family used to get very irritated at my prickly behavior.

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23 Nov 2010, 7:38 pm

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How they come to the most extreme conclusions so easily.

This. For example

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When they're watching a TV programme or a film, their favourite character is always the ''weirdest'' or ''most different'' character, or the character with lots of AS symptoms in the character (not the actual person in real life).
But in real life everyone's least favourite person is the ''weirdest'' or ''most different'' person.

(from the "List one NT thing you do not understand" thread)

I don't understand how the poster arrived to this conclusion.
In other words, I can't understand the very noticeable tendency of autistic people to overgeneralize.
(and notice that I didn't say: "Why are they always overgeneralize so much?")
But maybe there is nothing to understand here, it's just what it is? :huh:

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23 Nov 2010, 7:49 pm

Aimless wrote:

For me it happened more often the other way around, some people were teasing me to hurt my feelings and at first either I didn't understand the joke or I thought they were being nice and it was harmless ... then later understood they were being totally mean. But then I must also admit that because of that I have become more cautious.

If I am being teased (in a jokingly way), the best way for me so far, to understand if a person is teasing me in a nice or mean way, is to think of how that person is with me generally, this rule can fail occasionally tho, but in general it helps.

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23 Nov 2010, 9:06 pm

I don't understand why I hate going down grocery store isles with people in them. I don't think they'll bite, or scratch, or even talk to me...I just don't want to do it.

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23 Nov 2010, 9:11 pm

Cicely wrote:

The stereotypical Aspie interests: math, computers, science, technology, etc.

Agreed. Granted, my diagnosis is NLD so I'm "supposed" to be bad at math. But I'm also pretty hopeless with technology.

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23 Nov 2010, 11:24 pm

Why must I make simple things difficult for me and why must simple things be too stressful?

Why is it so hard to decide what to eat I must eat the same things over and over again just because it's so much easier than being at the grocery store for two hours figuring out what to buy when I can be there for only a half hour.

Why can't I just go walk right up to people and start talking? It's not that hard. That's how you make friends and ask for their phone number and fricken call them. Jeez.

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