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Do you find the greeting 'how are you' natural?
Yes, never thought twice about it. 12%  12%  [ 5 ]
No. 88%  88%  [ 36 ]
Total votes : 41

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07 Dec 2010, 1:32 pm

It's very strange to me. People commented on how I never ask them how they are. (And how I act 'ret*d' :cry: )



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07 Dec 2010, 9:23 pm

I suck it up and fake the answer...and ask it back to other people...because it gets me the basic connection with people that I want to attain.

However, I voted "No" because it isn't natural for me, annoys me, and it's ingenuine. You just do it effortlessly and go through the motions without caring how the person is actually feeling. It's dishonest in a way.


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07 Dec 2010, 11:53 pm

I do it, but I don't feel like it is natural. It doesn't bother me when people greet me like this. I prefer it when I haven't seen a person in a while because you may want to know what they up to. For example, I was wondering this about a person I ran into at the bookstore yesterday because I hadn't seen in him in a couple months. I voted "no" because I find it a little bit on the strange side, but I am not bothered by it either.



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08 Dec 2010, 1:03 am

I'm fine with it. It's when someone doesn't follow it with, "And how are you?" but I still reply with, "I'm fine, thanks..." that I get into problems.


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08 Dec 2010, 5:50 am

For the most part I only ask people how they are when I really want to know. I just don't think about it. I acknowledge people with a "hello" though. Usually it's the other person initiating the greeting first so I just respond with "fine" or "good" and then the person moves on and it's only occasionally that it occurs to me that I was supposed to reciprocate with a "how are you" back.



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08 Dec 2010, 8:28 am

I don't like the question for all the reasons listed here by others. I used to respond to the question, "Normal." Because most of the time any day is like any other day for me, so it's a normal day for me. This would throw the other off guard, often I'd get a pause and a question asking what I meant by that. The tables were turned!!