Something people often say to you

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Are you tired?
Are you okay?
Why do you do that?
Why do you always say that?
Is this okay?
My dad would always say this, "she knows". (I still don't know if it was complementary or sarcastic because he seems aspie)

I would always get that remark about presents too. I think your supposed to say "thank you" at least 3 times to confirm you actually appreciate it. (Like not crying or throwing it against the wall wasn't confirmation enough)

It seems to me NT people think people walk around smiling for no reason, very weird. Seriously I've been told to smile when I'm just walking down the street, why?

"Why are you so quiet?"
"Why do you always look so tired?"
"Why do you have to make everything so complicated?"
"Smile!"

Can you smile?
Cheer up!
You're heartless!
You don't listen to me!
You don't care!
Are you ok?
Earth to Valoy!
Do you love me?
Go out, meet people!
Say something!
Be more friendly!
Look at me!
You are young woman, you should...
You're so boring!
Do you have any friends?
Don't be so smart, I'm sure you don't know everything.
I don't share you interests.
Do you have feelings?
You're not normal.

i also hear "you're so quiet" or "you never say anything" when not aware of having been quiet.

I get "Smile!" a lot too. So annoying. But the worst is "Shh! Be quiet!" or "You're too loud!" (because I don't talk much). It makes me want to punch the person who says it.

Smile
Act
I saw some sloppy bagging.
Be grateful you have a job!
Be happy.
Change your attitude.
Start worrying about more important things, like a car, health insurance, etc.
Better be on your best behavior tonight!
I just got a complaint from a customer.
You're setting yourself up for failure!
Iiiiiiiiiif, you don't go, how can you know if it's right for you?
It's the economy.
Put on a show.
You're just being argumentative!
That's no excuse to be a jerk!
you need to exercise more!
It's healthier for you.
You don't need a TV in your room.
Just enjoy the trip.
Stop teasing your sister.
My Name, my naaaamme.
The economy wiiiiillllll eventually improve, you need to be paaatient!
My Name, we've gone over this a hundred times!! !
My Name, go wash your hands.
You enjoy working here?
How late are you working?
Tired? How can you be tired? You're too young to be tired!
How long are you working till?
WHat time ya guys close?
Excuse me, do you know where item is?
Excuse me, can you tell me where to find "item?"
Was it busy?
Change your attitude.
Grow up.
Time to start acting like an adult.
My Name, throat.
Oh, you sing just fine.
Stop singing, you can't sing.
I'm busy.
I don't want to hear it.
Stop the fighting!
My Name, we're taking a nap.
Hey, my name, remember, you're acting, put on a show at work.
WHy are you wearing short sleeves in the winter?
Stop sleeping, it's not nice to sleep.
Hey, my name, can you go into my room and get me my pillows?
Be grateful for what you have.
You did a great job bagging.
You guys are fast!
My Name's a pimp!
Hey, my name, that girl really likes you.
You will be able to afford a home theater.
My Name, no one wants to see this (speaker puts on sad face)
Is something wrong with your back?
Are you alright?
You sound like you have a cough.
C'mon, look on the brightside.

You have pretty eyes. Followed by looking into my eyes.

"Stop diagnosing yourself"

"You have sad eyes"

"You're adopted" < -- sister

"What am I going to do with you?" < -- teachers/ parents

"It's great to meet somebody that is so different <-- Disability job network helper on my interests.

you're funny or you're such an idiot
why don't you go out sometimes?
why are you dressed like that?
you can't/shouldn't have said that
relax
don't you have anything to say
why don't you take off the shades. It's not sunny.
why don't you go play with the kids?
stop acting like a little kid
how the hell do you do so well in school?

When I ask for help with something I can't do on my own, my parents accuse me of being selfish.

-Be quiet your talking to much(sarcastic)
-Smile More.
-Why Dont you talk?
-Why dont you smile?
-Are you ok?
-Do you understand?
-You have pretty eyes.
-You look sad.
-Cheer up.
-Are you even listening to me?
-This girl will talk your ear off...(sarcastic)
-Your Going to wear a hole in your head if you keep rubbing it
-What are you staring at?
-Your Not a little kid anymore!
-Grow up.
-Do yo even know how to talk?

Currently:
"Don't worry."
"Do you need help?"
"Let me do that."
"Are you okay?"
"You're funny."
"You look tired."
"Careful!" (when I drop something, trip over something, bump into something, or knock something over. All of the aforementioned examples happen far more often than I'd like to admit.)

When I was a child:
"What's wrong with you?"
"Are you ret*d?"
"Why are you ugly?"
"Why are you always by yourself? Don't you have any friends?"
"Why are you so quiet? Are you abused or something?"

etc, etc, etc.

I've gotten the "smile" comment a few times over the years, but not too often. I'm fortunate in the sense that I live in a massive and very jaded city. People aren't expected to be too happy here, so my sullen default expression doesn't stand out.

Odd how much people are talking to you (or - about you)
...or perhaps you've just lived much longer than I have (which is twenty years).
Or perhaps you initiate social interaction more than I do.
Or perhaps I'm so boring that people don't want to comment on me.

"Are you ok?" / "What's wrong?"
"You have such lovely hair!"
"Are those naturally curly?"
"What did you say?" / "Can you repeat that?"

...and the question that I truly hate but is inevitable. For pretty much anyone.
"How are you?"

How have you managed to get though life this far, being on the spectrum?

"The same way that everybody else gets through life."