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I've always been extremely naive and too trusting of people. My parents and grandparents comment on this often. I remember one good example.

This was a few years back and I had just gotten my check cashed. I needed some gas so I stopped by the gas station and this girl (probably early twenties at the time, I was 19) comes up to me. She looks raggedy and dirty. And she was pregnant. She said she had been visiting a family member in the main hospital within the city and needed to get back to her hometown, which was about an hour away. She said she didn't have any money to get gas, so I told her I would give her ten dollars. So, I looked in my wallet and I was pretty sure I had two 5 dollar bills I could give her, so I took them out and gave them to her. She says "Thanks" and heads back to her car and peels out of the gas station. So, I thought this was strange. As I was paying for my own gas and other items, I decided I would use the 50 dollar bill I had. Well.... that was missing. Apparently, I gave this woman 55 dollars. And she wanted to make sure she kept it. I don't know whether to think she needed it THAT bad or if she was using it for something she shouldn't have been partaking in while pregnant. I was a little hurt, though. At the same time.

Nope. I trust no one and suspect everyone of possible wrong doing.

People are not to be trusted.

Yes, and I'm still learning how to tell. I usually can't but then again I don't usually go out by myself. I only go by myself to meet people I already know I can trust I don't talk to strangers anymore. I'm pretty sure most people think I'm mute because I never talk but it is usually enough to deter people from talking to me if they have to go through my intimidating looking girlfriend.

I used call everyone my friend. But she slowly taught me how to tell the difference thought I still can't.


But yes I am naive everyone says so and everyone always worries about me when I'm out by myself.

I am totally naive and still hope I will grow out of it. Now that I have less exposure to people (married and homebody), I obviously have less problems. People would tell me the tallest tales and I believed them... why would they lie, right?

I have no "radar" for disingenuous people and have to rely on the good judgment of those closest to me. To avoid situations in public, I keep my head down which deters most people from engaging me. My dog also "smells crazy" and is a reliable indicator of those who's intent is malicious, so she helps a lot when I am alone. She has even prevented me from getting carjacked as I couldn't decipher the situation quickly enough and she nearly tore into the guy as he was reaching for my car door. I can't help but think my Aspie tendencies prevented me from realizing the danger I was in that night.

If anyone has any pointers on how to identify behaviors that indicate malicious intent, I would be eternally grateful!

As a child I was too naieve and trusting...with adults at least. I learned very young that other kids were pure evil. When I tried to be nice and friendly, I was bullied. I would believe anything someone told me and if you told me it was a pink elephant I bought that. Pretty much all interactions with other kids were negetive I began to believe that when someone approached to me it, they had bad intentions so I soon started attacking anyone that did. As a "tween" I began to believe that the human race is a species of evil.


I've always been facinated by people who keep wild animals and HUGE snakes as pets and how people tell them those pets are dangerous. I'd personaly trust a tiger before trusting another human being. People are the ones who are dangerous and who hurt. People hurt me for no reason. A tiger would attack me for a reason (which I could easily prevent) such as hunger, fear, retalation, illness.

I believe that most people are generally good, or at least will not deliberately harm me. But I know there are people who are not good or who can't be trusted. Unfortunately, I have no idea how to tell whether or not someone is trustworthy. So I either trust everyone (my natural inclination) or I trust no one.

I'm a lot like this as well. One student back when I was first doing College asked me to his truck to show me something. I told mom/dad they went ballistic OMG! What if he grabbed you etc. Also I try to be nice and usually give the phone to my mother since she's more stern, Today while with my older sister she said "PUT THE SUPERVISOR ON NOW!!" I couldn't be that harsh or stern over an issue. Once while at an auction I was told ok that'll be a few hundred dollars I said ok then dad said HUH! I didn't order any of that stuff (He went back and handled it). Another time I got a cold Funnel Cake at the fair mom/dad made me go back and get a fresh one. I'm naive and am too trusting and also don't care about sex either ICK! It's amazing how many different traits/issues other Aspies have. It's kind of nice knowing I'm not the only one with these issues as well.