I want to change my internal dialog to something positive.

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Definitely set realistic goals for yourself. Someone suggested a goal of B. That would be better than a goal of a A. If you set on a B and get a B, you'll be happy. You met your goal. If you set on an A and get a B, you'll be disappointed. If you set on a B and get an A, you'll be ecstatic!

I agree. Set realistic goals. Give yourself permission to exceed them, but don't make it mandatory.

And I'd also add, short-cycle goals. Get feedback, and go from there for the next round. For example:

'During my next three afternoon study sessions, I will try and add a brief to medium prestudy for the next section in the math book.'


You might find that this doesn't really work for one reason or another. Or you might find it works like gangbusters! And either way, you get feedback and you roll on from there.

When I was a young man I was totally confused about how to just get along. I decided to operate on principles. It's worked out pretty well for me... one real life changer for me was to keep my word. If the assignment is for the paper in 3 days, my paper was there. If I say I'll call you at three... I call. If I say I will deliver your order before 10, I deliver. No matter how small my agreement or how big, I took them all very seriously. If it looked like I was going to fail, I would get in touch as soon as I knew it. Acknowledging that you may not be able to keep your agreement makes other people know you respect them, and the deal that you have made. But in the long run it makes others trust you, and they believe what you say to them.