Laughing when you shouldn't

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People got mad at me for laughing:

1. At a funeral
2. When someone was choking on their food

lol! I do it too. When someone does something that I know probably hurt, I feel bad for them, but for some reason I smile. I try my best to keep from laughing, as I do not feel "happy" about the event, but sometimes it's difficult to do so.

I also smile when I am telling the truth, which tends to make people think that I am lying when I am not.

so am I! LOL!!

I think that sometimes the Aspie brain gets confused about which emotion it's supposed to display...

When I get hear bad news I have to cover my mouth to keep from laughing. I had a co-worker whose wife was a nurse and she went in for a minor surgery at the hospital she worked at and died on the operating table. When they told me she worked with some of the people I laughed a little and was completly embarressed by it. I was lucky my co-workers knew I laugh at bad news so they were not shocked.

now that one has gotten me in a lot of trouble as a teenager. Curiously enough, i didn't look suspicious when i lied, people just absolutely believed me, but when i told the truth i couldn't help but thinking " oh god, they're never going to believe me", and it triggered the suspicious look.Then i laughed....it's gotten a bit better over time though. Maybe because i care less about what people think now....

I often laugh when I see someone physically hurt though I will almost always cry when I see someone cry. I don't think the crying is from empathy or sympathy for the person. It just happens.

My emotional responses can seem random and unpredictable to others.

A friend of mine who has some AS traits was recently telling me that a lot of her friends have been turning nasty and yelling at her......I had a hard time keeping from laughing. I didn't exactly find her predicament funny, I just felt it was silly for them to get so uptight with her. And I often smile or laugh when I've noticed something superficially strange that I think I can explain - quite likely those angry people were getting upset because of her Aspie traits, and had concluded her to be a lousy person because they don't know anything about autism. Mostly I think I was laughing at them for being socially inept - surely, as long as she hasn't done anything really awful, they ought to have had the skills to respectfuly challenge and resolve their problems with her?

I felt quite guilty later on, and wished I'd been able to display some kind of grave concern......she didn't seem upset herself as she was telling me, but it must be awful to have hordes of people rejecting you like that, and AFAIK she has no idea that she might be autistic.

I think a lot of people have a very limited understanding of the meaning of laughter. I think laughter has a number of functions, including stress relief. Most people think that a laughing person is completely happy and carefree, but I think it's a lot more complicated than that.

Hmmm......I've seen at least one psychology study that assumes a reflex tendency to yawn when others are yawning is a measure of empathy.

Sometimes this happens to me XD, But I always try to laugh when I'm in a private (for example my house room) or a solitary place.

It usually occurs when I'm remebering something very funny that I saw or heard recently (like a comedy video, a joke, a Youtube Poop, etc), and inevitably I start to laugh.

Luckily this hardly ever has happen when I'm in a public or crowded place, and when it happens, I usually can explain why and the people doesn't freak out.

I haven't mastered the art still. LOL! Just this morning, someone was asking me some questions about a friendship gone bad. They were asking if there were any romantic feelings whatsoever, and I kept telling them no, I never felt that way about that friend. Yet, as I was trying to convey how serious I was about this point, I kept smiling, which made them think I was telling a lie. I think there is something about trying to be sure you are projecting the correct emotion in your expression that causes it...or at least in my case.

the other day, while i was in the waiting room at my psychiatrist's office, an overweight, gray-haired, heavily medicated, vigorously disheveled, mentally disabled woman shuffled into the office with a walker (the kind with wheels, hand brakes, & a wire basket) and up to the check-in window. she let out a loud grumble and it was to be known that her cab was late, as usual. then as she plowed towards the phone at the other end of the reception area, her walker began to groan. then the groan became like a blaring foghorn; the walker was clearly pissed. it was as if someone upstairs had thought, "and a cherry on top," and i was unable to suppress my mirth. i know i do not put it very well so i will post a related video:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5X1VIyZe3Ws[/youtube]

The first time I watched that video, I thought, that's too good, they have to be setting this guy up...I just had to find out what was going on in that video!! LOL!! Another version with subtitles

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0IEYty1e810[/youtube]

Much like me when I know I should respond a certain way to a situation. However, the more I concentrate on controlling my responses, the more likely it is that I will do something terribly wrong....

Recently I was teaching a dance class, and one of the students was apparently too sick to dance. She was sitting in a chair on the side, huddled in a blanket, looking like an old woman, even though she´s in her 20´s probably. At one point, she got up and moved position, but she looked so incredibly and exaggeratedly ill when she did this, that I couldn´t help myself; I burst out laughing, right then and there! Kind of bad when the teacher can´t hold it in, and laughs out loud for the whole class to see. I had the feeling, at the time, that she was faking and making a big show of it, because it seemed so dramatically done. I just found that hysterically funny. However, in retrospect, I realize I am often bad at second guessing people and figuring out their feelings or intentions, so maybe I was wrong?

I found out the other day that she is now leaving the school because she doesn´t feel comfortable there. I have a horrible guilty feeling that it may be because of my laughing that day. Though, I don´t know for sure. I probably should have told her to disregard all I say and do, and not take it personally.....

Anyway, I think there is some evidence that many people laugh when stressed or shocked. I have also seen some NTs do this, so it may be more common than we realize.

And as for 9/11, no, I did not laugh at that. But I also didn´t feel the huge emotion that most people felt. Instead, I was totally numb about the whole thing. I guess I was in sock, so it felt like I had no emotion. It did become my special interest for awhile though, I studied it because I felt like I just needed to understand it.

It happens to me a lot especially with either serious things or just normal events that people wouldn't laugh at. Most of the time I will be daydreaming and will start to crack up. My mom will always ask me "What's so funny"? I would just say that I was thinking about something in my head. Its hard for me to hide my laughter, but I heard some people say laughter is the best medicine.

Don't know if this is one, but when watching a serious programme on TV with others, and laughing at something that happens in it when it's not intended to be funny.
Laughing all of a sudden around others because I think of something funny.... this can sometimes continue on to continuous laughter lasting for a few minutes because I try not to think of it anymore, but I still do, to the point that tears nearly come to my face. Everyone: "WTF?"
Same thing, except if sleeping in the same room as someone, I start laughing because I think of something funny and wake the other person up.

I'm glad someone made this post, now I understand why I act so crazy. I will start laughing for no reason, at nothing at all. Usually, I am thinking of something, (Simpsons, etc and bust out. I had and ex-boyfriend who had NO personality and NO emotions who actually dumped me because he didn't like laughter. I think there's something wrong with people who never laugh. Having a sense of humor is a sign of intelligence.