Those with brothers or sisters close to their age

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No, my sister had terrible taste in people.

My older sister is about a year and a half older than I am, and I don't have, or want, much of a relationship with me. All my life, she treated me like a lower class citizen, always pushing me around, telling me to shut up, saying that everything I did, thought, and said was wrong just because it came from me, and even at times saying I was born wrong.

The few times in my life I had some chance of having friends, she always manipulated the situation by finding commonalities between her and them, such as music, books, etc., that my friends didn't have with me, then convince them those commonalities made her better than me and that I should be just pushed aside for her.

When my parents got their fixation that I should swim everyday and learn to love it, she used that to her advantage by often deciding it was time to go swimming when I wanted to do something, and our parents always backed her up in that, believing that when anyone else swam, I had to swim too. To them, having a non-swimming child was the worst thing any parents could face in raising their children, and they were determined to brainwash me into someone who loved swimming more than life itself. It never worked.

When I got older, I hoped my sister would move out of the house once I started college, but at the last minute she decided not to, so again, our parents started trying to force whatever she did on me. For some reason, she wanted me to go everywhere with her, and our parents supported that because they thought if I didn't go out more, I'd end up with some sort of psychiatric problem and have to put into an insane asylum.

In order to keep that from happening, I got dragged to the mall many times, to football games, bars, parties, concerts and other place where people got drunk and acted stupid, and other places I didn't want to be. In addition, my parents thought I should go everywhere and do whatever she wanted to support her because she wanted to go to medical school and if I didn't, she'd be upset and not be able to do well enough in school to get in. She did get in, and all this forced activity on me stopped, but she came home on stress leave, and it all started again.

I couldn't wait to one day move out on my own, so I could stay in when I wanted to without fear of judgement, harassment, or being hauled off in a straight jacket for preferring spending an evening with my computer, ham radio, or a rerun of Doctor Who as opposed to going somewhere people were getting drunk and acting foolish.

Fortunately now, I'm married to someone who feels the same way I do, and it's much better, and I almost never see me sister, which is fine with me.

My aspie son and my daughter are 18 months apart. They are friends with each other, they share friends, and they're both friends with the brother and sister in other families. They know all the same people and gossip like woah. I don't anticipate this changing unless they go to different colleges and then live in different places.