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26 Jan 2011, 5:20 pm

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I used to give them cards, but then I saw that they just got thrown away after a while and gave up.
I've never quite got that weird little ritual.
Why would anyone want to give someone a small sheet of stiff paper in celebration of anything? I mean, what the hell's it for?
It doesn't make sense to get a card, sign it, then post/hand it to them. That's what people do with parking fines!
Why would handing someone a formalized notification of their birthday or Christmas make them feel happy?
Especially as they then get thrown away.
I gave them cards because they were easier to give than gifts. I don't know what to give to people, unless they ask me for something specific, and felt like I needed to give something so I gave them cards instead. They could have nice messages inside, though.



I don't do birthdays anymore except husband's and now son's. I used to just write them checks. I have also done gift cards for my husband and this year I got him a game. Now I don't care for my birthday and having cake is good enough. I have enough stuff is why.


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26 Jan 2011, 5:26 pm

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Hey, its your birthday tomorrow MathGirl!!

Anyway, I remember my own family's birthday but I don't even know my relatives' birthdays. Hmm...to me it doesn't seem that hard. Do you have trouble remembering mathematical constants also?
It has nothing to do with math. I just don't ascribe any importance to birthdays. I don't have trouble remembering mathematical constants because they have logical meaning.

I don't care that it's my birthday tomorrow, either, and would rather not have a bunch of people calling me up/messaging me with happy birthday. It's just another day to me.

Sorry about that. Sometimes I would type something and people tell me I shouldn't have typed it. If you say that you don't ascribe any importance to bdays, then you just answered your own question. Mathematical constants don't have to have logical meaning. Like how is Pi=3.141592... have meaning?



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26 Jan 2011, 5:42 pm

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Sorry about that. Sometimes I would type something and people tell me I shouldn't have typed it. If you say that you don't ascribe any importance to bdays, then you just answered your own question. Mathematical constants don't have to have logical meaning. Like how is Pi=3.141592... have meaning?
Yes, because it's what makes a circle round. The less digits of Pi you remember, the less round your circle will be (see estimating pi). That's how I look at it. I can just visualize the significance of these constants in my mind.


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26 Jan 2011, 5:49 pm

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I used to give them cards, but then I saw that they just got thrown away after a while and gave up.
I've never quite got that weird little ritual.
Why would anyone want to give someone a small sheet of stiff paper in celebration of anything? I mean, what the hell's it for?
It doesn't make sense to get a card, sign it, then post/hand it to them. That's what people do with parking fines!
Why would handing someone a formalized notification of their birthday or Christmas make them feel happy?
Especially as they then get thrown away.

Ditto - I don't send birthday or Christmas cards, I also don't do 'good luck' cards and the like when they used to go round at work...this added greatly to everyone's general dislike of me, as you could imagine 8)

It's a bit of overpriced mass-produced card that gets thrown in the bin, to me it's not just that it's pointless, it's that the sentiment is [almost] always empty.
:lol: I thought it was just me for a while there...
Oh dear me yes; those awful canned things with a verse I could spend hours agonizing over. Too soppy? Too subtle? Will they get it at all? Nah, it's just crap.
With the 'good luck' cards, if it was someone I liked then I'd end up getting accused of writing a novel instead of the usual one-liners. Well if you have something nice to say about them, it's worth saying then or not at all. :wink:

If I do anything, I'll frame one of my photographs or give them a recording of my organ music but it's very rarely for a birthday or stuff like that - I just do it as a surprise present because I feel like doing it.


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26 Jan 2011, 7:56 pm

MathGirl wrote:
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Sorry about that. Sometimes I would type something and people tell me I shouldn't have typed it. If you say that you don't ascribe any importance to bdays, then you just answered your own question. Mathematical constants don't have to have logical meaning. Like how is Pi=3.141592... have meaning?
Yes, because it's what makes a circle round. The less digits of Pi you remember, the less round your circle will be (see estimating pi). That's how I look at it. I can just visualize the significance of these constants in my mind.

So you can visualize the "1"...followed by the "4"...followed by the "1"...etc...

Really?



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26 Jan 2011, 8:10 pm

I'm definitely one of those people who forgets birthdays and I ain't even on the spectrum.


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26 Jan 2011, 8:58 pm

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So you can visualize the "1"...followed by the "4"...followed by the "1"...etc...

Really?
No, not precisely, but I do have an approximate idea of how it works.


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26 Jan 2011, 10:06 pm

I barely remember my own birthday, which I don't really enjoy celebrating. I am also terrible at names.



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26 Jan 2011, 10:37 pm

I fail at remembering holidays and birthdays alike. They just creep up on me out of the blue.

As someone else suggested, keeping a birthday calendar with automatic alerts would be a good idea. I believe some social networking sites like facebook also have a birthday alert app which might be useful. I don't use it personally, but it could help if you know anyone on there.



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26 Jan 2011, 10:43 pm

MathGirl wrote:
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So you can visualize the "1"...followed by the "4"...followed by the "1"...etc...

Really?
No, not precisely, but I do have an approximate idea of how it works.

Interesting, I would like to know :)

Seems like your username is well-suited :P