How do you do in group settings?

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Yep. I have been just like that for 60 years.

Oh yeah. Woo!

That sounds a bit odd to be just a little excited by a possible person whom both appears logical and quiet, but a also a rambling never shut up kind of person just depending on the subject.

Oh yes, and sometimes I just keep right on talking while someone is walking away after I have just told them I am someone who tends to just keep right on talking until someone walks away ...

Whew.

Yeah I don't do well in groups. I remember I was in a Cooking class and we where all in groups and I hated my group. Forsome reason they where mean to me and gave me all the crapy jobs that none wanted and they thought I was ret*d for some reason because I have difficulty paying attention to the teacher and I don't know why they think that I am ret*d but they just have a feeling that I am. I was depressed that year but that group just made it worse. I hated every minute of it and I was not friendly to that group. They where my worst nightmare. Every cooking group I had in high school I hated except for this year but I don't know we will see how well this group goes.

not well.

Yeah I like to work on my own that is what I think is the best.

Generally not well. I'm very quiet and say next to nothing, and when I do talk I usually get ignored. Most of the time I feel like I could have done a much better job if I'd worked individually, even on big projects. More people =/= better quality work.

When I'm in a group, the other people always end up doing everything. This isn't such an issue in groups of 2, but it becomes a major issue in groups of 3 or 4.

I always hated it when I had to do some project in a group situation . I would become so anxious and feel a rush of anxiety when it came my turn to have to say or do something. I can work quite well alone and complete a project or solve some problem logically in my own way, but if I’m put in a group situation forget it, the anxiety takes over and I’m finished.

im very quiet and content following orders unless nobody steps up and is a leader. At that point I get irritated that nobody stepped up and I start telling people what to do, but thats rare as my personality is usually weaker than most other guys in the group

I was at an HFA/AS support group tonight. I wasn't any more comfortable there than in any other group. Maybe even more uncomfortable because they're Aspie so I'm 'supposed' to fit in, right? But I still have trouble connecting.

Sigh.

(I did meet someone that hangs out here at WP. Hi jamesongerbil!)

I know exactly what you mean here,

I have the same problem connecting with other Aspies in a group situation, I do much better one on one though.

DEFINITELY better one on one.

I attended a support group for several weeks but discontinued because I didn't feel comfortable in the group setting.

The funny thing is that when I met up with some of the guys one on one before everyone else had arrived I found I got on quite well with them. But as soon as everyone else started to shuffle in and the group built up I became more and more uncomfortable and found it hard to contine converstions .

Unless the discussion is about a subject I'm very interested and knowledgeable in, I completely shut down, barely say anything, just kind of stand and look awkward. I can consciously read individuals, but it's very hard to read multiple people and chime in at the appropriate time and say the appropriate things. Usually when I try I end up getting odd looks, like I'm some sort of moron. For this reason I prefer one on one.


If it something I'm in to, I'm with the guys who say they go overboard. I'll talk for days about particular subjects.

Silent with head down works for me.