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You've already made it quite clear in other threads that your brother is a bit of a jerk who enjoys picking on you, and this another example of how true that is.
He's trying to wind you up and provoke a reaction by pushing your buttons.
Let it go. He's just being idiotic and what he said is irrelevant.

Yeah i mean my brother can talk becuase he has been sacked from his previous jobs becuase of rudeness.

Well, there ya go!
If anyone's having trouble "taking part in society" it's him, don't you think?

Cornflake i need to mention something else which is quite important.

9-8 years ago i was around my best friends house. My old friend has moved on now and i don't see him anymore but that is besides the point. I was round his house one night and his parents were trying to drop hints that they wanted me and my brother to leave. I was in my friends room playing video games with him and i said for a joke "If your parents try and kick me out i will tear them apart" obviously my friend did not see the funny side of it and before i left the house he scowled at me. I was clueless that unintentionally offended him and he virtually did not want to be friends with me because of the remark that and we had previous conflicts dating back from when we were kids becuase of my AS. he probably did not realise i was "Joking". Even though we made up shortly after a few months later we stopped being friends completely and we turned into each others enemies. that said 4 years later we met up again before we left school and we resolved our differences becuase he approached me and wanted to be friendly again.

But you see what i mean about me saying the wrong unintentionally?

It comes with the territory, mate. We've all been there.
Wavefreak said it nicely in the "You might be an Aspie If ..." thread, with "every time you open your mouth you find a foot in it."

It happens with everyone, but maybe more so with us.
But you know the difference between something unintentionally rude/misplaced, and something intended to be offensive that you've said, so you just have to try and learn to hold back a little.
Or raise apologising into an art-form.

Cornflake what do you think of the remark i made to my friend?

About the house: factual and completely harmless.
To your friend: you were clearly joking but he didn't get it and worse, he over-reacted to it.

Yeah because unless my body language or tone of voice indicated overwise my friend probably saw it as a threat. I mean its plain common sense because you can't make threatening jokes about your friends parents can you? its just completely immoral.

What you said to your uncle could be seen as you were trying to belittle him, and could be seen as regular conversation. I make many many mistakes like that by using the wrong tone. But for people getting upset over little things like that seems useless to me. You know your uncle and brother better than any of us do, and how they reacted could of been because of their personalities. As for what your bother said, he is completely incorrect. Look at these idiots in government and in society that are constantly rude, but function very well, with lots of money to boot.

Both my brother and my uncle have similar personalities since my bro kinda takes after my uncle.

tell your Bro to "Shaadap" but what you said was inappropriate especially because your uncle did loads of work in your house. Look at it this way: How would you like it if a hairdresser was doing your hair and said, "I did this hairstyle on a previous customer who was waaaayyy better looking than you." You hurt your Uncle's feelings by making him feel like a servant who has a "lesser" dwelling than yours. He already knows your house is bigger than his if he did work in it. You didn't have to say it to him. I hope you understand this. Think before you talk. BUT if you paid him a lot of money to do work in your house, then you didn't really say anything wrong. Because it would be seen as a business transaction.
He did the work for free didn't he? If he did, you should handle him with great caring.

If your uncle had a problem with what you said, he should have stated it to you, not your brother. That's their problem, not yours.

I don't think what you said was rude or weird at all. If your house is bigger than his house, then it's a fact, not anything to be offended by. If NTs got offended by things like that then everyone would be spending their whole lives treading on eggshells with each other.

It's been 7 years since the odd remark , I hope things have changed.

"Foot in mouth disease"-I can certainly relate to that! People see me as a generally nice person, but I have had embarrassing incidents of putting my foot in my mouth.