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02 Aug 2011, 12:26 am

I'm sending my sister a sweet 16 card for her birthday. I do this even though she and I are not very close but because I want to bury the past (by that i mean she verbally abused me when she was younger) so to speak I think it's only appropiate to do this so I can at least slowly build some kind of bond with her.
It;s very interesting, I was on the phone with my grandparents not long ago and they say that she's taking driving lessons and that she'll be starting Junior year soon (we live in separate states)
I doubt she'll want me and my brother at her graduation but I have a feeling my aunt and Uncle will find some way to talk her into sending us an invite when the time comes.



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02 Aug 2011, 1:07 am

If I actively dislike someone, they aren't getting my well-wishes. There aren't too many people who I actually dislike as opposed to simply being indifferent to.
If what I feel is just indifference, and I am expected to, for example, sign a Christmas card, I'll do so, because I don't want them to not have a happy Christmas- that would require me to take more notice of people than I do- and the refusal to sign the card will be taken by most people as a wish for the person in question not to enjoy their Christmas, rather than "We've barely spoken 20 words to each other, and your Christmas is not even on my radar".


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02 Aug 2011, 1:15 am

I just sign my name.


PS I don't do greeting cards. But I do do thank you cards but I do it in my own time frame and how I want to do it.


I also say bye to someone if they are moving or whatever. Sometimes I say nothing.



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02 Aug 2011, 1:18 am

Chronos wrote:
I don't send cards or wish someone well unless I mean it.


Ditto.


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02 Aug 2011, 3:05 am

Tiffinity wrote:
draelynn wrote:
I see a business opportunity here... aspie greeting cards...

Mother's Day... well, you did give birth to me so there is that... I'm not sure I understand why I need to thank you for that every year, though. I didn't ASK to be born you know.

Get Well - I don't really know what's wrong with you but I hope its not terminal. Feel better soon or die trying.

Happy First Birthday - like you can READ this card anyway! The inside should really just have big goofy pictures, a drool bib and a slot for money intended for your future but that your parents will spend on take out this weekend.


I had to comment on this, it really made me laugh :lol:
You've got a great sense of humour. That's one thing I really don't get. So many people in these posts have got a wicked, dry sense of humour yet I keep reading that Aspies don't 'get' humour. There are many, many times when I've had family and friends crying with laughter at my quips and comments. My dad always wanted me to do stand-up comedy because I used to do running commentries and observations indoors but I was and am too shy. I don't like the typical formula jokes ( mainly because by the time they've got to the punchline I've wandered off somewhere in my mind) But your type of humour is right up my street. :)

Tiffinity.


I have the same experience. I generally find it easy to make people laugh with sarcasm, wordplay, or observations. I know a diagnosed Aspie who has the exact same sense of humour.

On-topic: I generally find these to be easier. I don't send them unless I mean them (but it's not difficult to mean them), and there are some clear rules about them (you can find them out easily as well: just go to your local shop and see what kind of gift cards they have. If there's a gift card for it, you're expected to send one).