Autistics and Beliefs!

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Hm, I don't quite have this. As a child I used to not think about other people's thoughts and emotions, but now I'm very good at it; NT thoughts and emotions just seem stupid to me. I think it's human nature to assume that most people are like you in certain ways and that you're unique in others.

But yeah, NT thoughts and emotions just seem silly to me. It should be noted that an obsession is improving my social skills and analyzing the underlying conventions of society. Like, yesterday my dad said "I want you out of bed at 9 to do yardwork." I stayed up until 5 AM, woke up at 4 PM, and procrastinated doing it until he came home. He starts shouting at me...I remain perfectly calm. I understand his mind is working this way: "WTFFF I EXPECTED YARD TO BE DONE BY NOW, YARD IS NOT DONE, ANGER!!" but to me it's like....okay....as long as I get it done before the sun goes down, what difference does it make? It's not affecting his plans. Any time someone starts shouting at me it just looks silly. I used to passive-aggressively snap once a month or so and I'd shout then, but that's about it.

When something I love is taken from me I start rambling loudly in a panicked voice about how illogical and unfair it is. Does anyone else do something similar? It's somewhere between frustration, anger and sadness.

At 19 you should have a say in what time it gets done. He is treating you like a child. May be an old habit of his from when you were younger. I would say what you you stated here when he asks you to do something. He may think you always have excuses so justs starts yelling.

Up until I was diagnosed as an adult (at 44 years of age---and learned a lot about Asperger's) I believed that what I was fascinated with, other people were people fascinated with it too. Therefore my special intense interests should be interesting to everyone.

For example:

I have always loved roller coasters, and even though my mother was afraid to ride them (though she has ridden some recently), I felt she still found them fascinating creations. And as an English teacher, I used to show my classes roller coaster documentaries and felt there was no way they couldn't be fascinated with them.

It was only after learning about this theory of mind thing that I came to realize that people aren't necessarily fascinated by what I am fascinated by.

I still feel at times that how I feel about something is the way others should feel.