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09 Apr 2011, 11:33 pm

I'd be questioning the judgement of the NT in question -- striking up a friendship again with someone who said they'd kill your family sounds hazardous, even if they didn't mean it you can't know that for sure.


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09 Apr 2011, 11:54 pm

Kricky7 wrote:
The "falling out" was a break up of sorts. The ASD said " I will kill your family." The NT said, "I hate you and you will die alone." (in a nutshell) The NT emailed after a friend was brutally murdered saying life is short and the ASD refuses to respond. I'm friends with the ASD and encouraging him to respond and bury the hatchet. He's stubborn and not responding. WHY?


The answer could be in the falling out. Sometimes the sting gets to an ASD person more regardless of how minor the sting itself is. But man I'm rather shocked that the ASD threaten to kill the NT's family and the NT wants to be friends still.

The ASD probably not comfortable with facing the NT right now after the falling out. But he should respond with something at least or it will look back on both ends. He doesn't have to forgive the NT or be friends with him again right now but he should at least send his condolences and could ask the friend to just give him time to let the steam off a little.



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10 Apr 2011, 5:34 am

Perhaps the NT is aware that the ASD has problems & didn't really mean what he said & maybe the NT feels like he caused some of the problems. The NT may be tying to relive his guilt. The ASD may be suspicious of the NT & think he's just saying that out of obligation due to the friends death; Or the ASD may feel bad about what happened & is too embarrassed; Or he may be worried that the friendship will run into problems again. I might could think of more possible theories to toss out latter if you guys want


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10 Apr 2011, 6:40 am

It really does depend. I mean, I might. Except I won't trust people who've betrayed me. I mean really hurtful things, there's enough people in the world that I might give them one more chance, but I'd be really reluctant, really guarded for a long time until they prove they've changed. And if it was a bad enough betrayal, yeah, no that dog won't hunt.