Really embarrassed when I use certain word(s)

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I feel the same way. My name embarrasses me. I don't like it when other people call me by my name either. This could be in part because I have an unusual name, but I think it's because it feels too personal, kind of intrusive.

Me too, i had made a thread about not liking to hear people pronounce your name in the middle of conversation, but actually i can't pronounce it myself either. Pronouncing other people's name is fine, as long as I'm not saying it to the person the name belongs to, in conversation.
Like "you know, sarah, i think you're right" feels like insulting sarah No idea why.

Using slang is pretty embarrassing for me, unless it is something that I grew up using.

I do this. Particularly, saying people's names. I'm embarrassed to say the names of people I know well. >_>

Also, I don't like saying the word "girl", partly because I have trouble saying <r>s sometimes, especially <rl>, like in "world" too. Can't think of any other examples though.

Possibly for me when it comes to the word "cute", so i just say "Kawaii" instead, but then again, I would prefer to say "cute".

I hate saying my name too. It's very uncomfortable for me to do. In fact, sometimes I hate it so much if I'm asked what my name is I'll give my legal name that I hardly ever use, because I do not associate myself with it as much. Actually now that I think about I do kind of prefer my legal name now, my nickname is rather childish actually.

I knew an OB nurse that would turn red and get real embarrassed when someone would mention circumcision. That was a real problem, considering that the newborn male circumcision rate at our hospital was 98%.

Yeah, I also find it weird to be referred to by my name. (I wonder if that's why I never refer to my pets by name? Hmm...)

I've noticed the feeling of being intruded on in an overly-personal way seems at the root of a lot of things, for me. Like eye contact, being touched by people who I'm not really, really familiar and comfortable with, and so etc. It's always seemed like (most) other people have a shield of barrier to reduce the amount of 'invasion' from things like that.

I sometimes feel reluctant to say a film or a song I really like, especially if someone hasn't really heard it before, and they look at me blankly and say, ''what?''

I feel awkward and false when using the second person singular pronoun, "you" - at least if there is any emphasis on the word, in any such way as to suggest that I might actually have any kind of normal personal relationship to another human being. Any time I use it, I feel as if the other person might catch me out, and ask me why I'm pretending to be a human being!

I'm not supposed to have "I-Thou" relationships; instead, I'm supposed to be detached, to have only "I -It" relationships, perhaps at most sharing a common interest with another being, if there is any, who is similarly detached, and similarly situated above (or below) the level of properly human concerns. Absurdly, I can't even do that!

I have no idea if this kind of difficulty in having human relationships has anything to do with the difficulties that autistic people have. I'm braced to find out that it isn't. Fire away!

(What deep questions are asked in this forum! It's a new experience for me.)

OMG, if it is aspie related, now i understand.
In my language, when i was little i didn't liked to say:
Svenuto (fainted) Svenire (to faint) Tedesco (german) Inghilterra (england). I did distortions to some words, when i said 'Pisina' instead of 'Piscina' (pool), even when i was aware that the correct word was 'Piscina'
Now i never use those words:
Puzza (bad smell), Puzzola (skunk), Respirare (to breath), Timido (shy), all italian bad-words and loads and loads of other words. i never pronunce most of english words, but this is more likely because i don't know how to pronunce them. It's worse when it comes with names of people. And yes, i hate when people ask for my name, because is one of the words i don't like to pronunce (and ironically is also the name of one of my main characters). I can't pronunce properly 'R', 'C' and 'GLI' (in italian 'gli' is not phonetic). My R sounds much norvegian like instead of trilled as my language requires, my C sounds terrible, when i pronunce GLI , that must sound something like yii, it seems i sai simply I
Instead, i love to pronunce norwegian words. for now i never meet a norwegian word that i refuse to pronunce. but probably when i will go in norway i will be unable to say a word because my italian accent will remain strong.

I have a hard time using names (my own and others), I also have a hard time using the correct names for private parts.
I get more uncomfortable HEARING certain words than using them.
Usually I have to tap my ears, or wave my hands in front of my ears so I can't hear the word anymore, LOL.

I almost never use names. I can only think of one person whose name I say, I use in in conversation with them, trying to say it as much as possible, but only in their presence.

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I am also reluctant to address people by their names, and I feel awkward doing do, in much the same way as with the pronoun "you", and for much the same reason.

On the other hand, I don't seem to have any particular trouble using my own name. I don't like it (partly because it is a male name, and partly because my mother chose it, and so it reminds me that my identity is in a sense her creation), but that is something else. Also, I seldom have to use my own name. Perhaps I would feel awkward if I did have to, I don't know. I suppose one mostly has to use it when introducing oneself to another person, and I do that so seldom that I literally can't remember the last time I had to do it! I avoid social interaction so much that it is hard to remember what it is actually like.

(That leads on to the whole big topic of there being a big shameful void in the place where something called a human "personality" is supposed to be, but that's also another topic, and I mustn't ramble. I suppose I should start another thread about that, when I'm feeling confident enough, because it will be important in determining whether my difficulty with other people is of an "Aspie" nature, or something quite different, which just has some similar "symptoms".)