How do you feel about gossip?

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I hate gossip too; people that gossip spread negative, insidious, destructive and often untrue rumours about people, often on a personal grudge.

Waste of time.

ruveyn

Because there'd be very little to talk about if no one talked about other people. Not all gossip is negative, you could just tell a story about someone you know where something good happened to them and you can also get information on someone you like.

And at the same time it is quite satisfying when someone shares the same dislike for someone as me, then I can say what I want about them without offending anyone.

I also don't like gossip, I never did understand it. I Make an effort not to do it, myself. I don't like the things that a lot of women gossip about.

I don't like it when people gossip about me.

Just the word gossip instils homicidal anger in me. I honestly feel like killing people that willingly partake in this mindless BS. I remember some woman was talking BS to my aunties friend then she told a "joke" to me which was "we're junkies" and I didn't see any tracks on her arms so I could only assume that she meant shes a "gossip junky". Felt like killing her then and there. I suppressed my homicidal rage by ignoring her and thinking about something else. God I hate gossip. I'm guessing gossip is one of those things that people on the spectrum are incapable of understanding. Maybe theres something I can't perceive and if I could it wouldn't seem so superficial and mindless.

That sounds dreadful.
My father's wife is a unique case. She gossips with God (or so it seems that way), and takes his perceived "responses" as fact. She's drawn more than one wrong conclusion about me in the past thanks to that.

Wait... did I just gossip about her?

I dunno, I dislike that whole twofaced thing that people usually use to cover how they lie. But sometimes taking an interest and staying on top of what's happening is also helpful. I've heard about discontentment I wouldn't have known about (and been able to take some steps to address them) through listening to what people were saying about what others thought. It's a very round about way of getting information, but in a few cases I never would have even known (because people always forget to tell me) important information I needed.

Heck, it's common where I live that people won't confront you about things that upset them or problems they had, they'll talk about it to their friends and it's generally assumed that the issue will reach you via gossip and small talk indirectly so that no one needs to risk losing face in a confrontation. This is a cultural difference, here if someone's bothered by you leaving your coffee mug on the table after meetings they won't confront you and tell you to your face. Expecting them to will get you absolutely frigging nowhere either since it's going directly against the cultural norm and makes you the aggressive freak who'll walk up to people and get in their face when they did everything right. But if you listen you will hear about it indirectly, and it won't be intended as an attack - at least not initially - just a heads up, and you are of course allowed to use the same channel to pass along your minor issues.

I will not though listen to people shittalk or spread vile lies, I'm interested in how people are doing, what they're up to, but stuff like the earlier mentioned gossiping about whether the man was gay or not - I don't put up with that kind of crap.