would you still get married with AS?

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Never ever ever. I get very frustrated when people tell me someday I will change my mind.

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Im engaged to a NT, and I not only love him, but I need him. The life Ive lived has not prepared me for the real world out there, and my love knows what hes doing, he will guide me.

Having autism is tough, and its nice to have someone to be there for me to help me when Im having a hard time because of my autism.

I believe in the institution of marriage, but not for myself. I also don't see why people with AS can't get married if that's what they want.

I'd like to be in a relationship first, and if it lasts, I'll get married. It won't be a traditional one, only a simple, secular ceremony. I absolutely don't like exaggerated expectations attributed to marriage. When two people love each other, learn to get along with the other, have common aims in the life, I believe there is absolutely no place to argue at a specific kind of legal/traditional affirmation. The simpler the better.

hy not get married? If you meet someone you like then get married. Hell, gays are fighting for the right to be married and you want to give up on it. Next you will be saying people with AS shouldn't have children.

I'd probably get married as, I don't see AS is some permanent obstacle though it takes a great deal of patience and understanding on both sides of this union shall I say..

Being female, my meltdowns are already Bridezilla-ish in nature. No need for an uber expensive wedding to get a dose of that. Plus throwing parties for myself has always been overstimulating for me and have cause several meltdowns for me. The only good part of a wedding would probably be the honey moon but I still would not get married. Seeing how married people act in general I can never understand why people would throw an insanely lavish "must be perfect" wedding and then treat their spouse like garbage.

Nah. If I ever meet someone who I like enough to marry and the feelings are mutual, I'm going to throw my AS into a little box and toss it into the ocean.

I am married now and would definately get married again. I do require allot of alone time, but the thought of being completely alone every night is very depressing to me.

I am newly diagnosed this month, myself!
I am a 6- months-married man (nearly 7), and I have always found that I get lonely if I am alone too long.
When I have been alone, I have always found myself daydreaming of finding someone who would love me (for myself). I am a natural daydreamer, so of course this came naturally to me. Imagining a whole life with a woman (like making my own life movie of it in my head) was pretty easy. I only stopped imagining it when I was mentally tired.
I'm lucky enough to (now) have a woman who understands Autism and pretty much accepts me for who I am (always some ups and downs, but even NT marriages have those!)
I guess I am a bit different that way, but not being alone that much is good for me.

I have been married eleven years. My DH was my first proper relationship, we both have undiagnosed combinations of ASD/ADHD which I only realised after our son was dx. I think I was drawn to him and vice versa as we both feel normal to each other, this is probably why my previous attempts at dating with NT types never really worked. I have NT friends but am at a loss to understand them sometimes.

I can't imagine an NT partner putting up with my oddities for very long whereas I don't think my husband even registers them!

I don't want to get married right now because I feel I'm not ready. But I suppose one day I may. It will take some doing to meet enough asexuals like me to find someone I can share my life with; but thankfully I have no particular gender preference, so that does double my potential spouse pool. (If it turns out to be a female, I can only hope that by then it will be legal, because I do not believe in living with someone in an intimate fashion--even if only mental/platonic intimacy--without having a permanent commitment.)

Me too. When I find someone who loves me for who I am and vice-versa of course.

It would be nice not be lonely most of the time.

I base this statement purely on speculation, so I recognize it could be shot down in flames, but it seems that men with ASD are much more rejecting of the idea of marriage than women... does anyone else casually observe this to be the case?

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Why are the guys' answers sought after in this post? Does marriage and aspergers not affect women?

i asked about men specifically since i am a guy and it seems there are quite large differences in relationships for AS males vs AS females. but if women want to post that is most welcome.

i'm curious we don't have any posts from guys saying "well, i've been married 15 years and i would definitely do it again". Cash__, how long have you been married?